No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Yes. Rich family. Absolutely beautiful garden with a river running through it. Service had to be under this canopy thing for the rules.

Smart shorts would be ok but make sure to add that shoes should be worn without socks halfway up the shins😉

Fantastic!

I would feel the same op it is a Wedding not a beach bbq!

Say no shorts.

Kilts are formal attire and knobbly knees are part of the look!

I just wouldn't go to any wedding with a dress code. It's about a joining of two people not the photos!

Are you requesting ladies wear long dresses or are their nobbly knees fine?

I have no idea why you're getting so much stick on this thread OP. Would all these people saying wear what you like have worn shorts if they had got married in the UK in a heatwave, I doubt it, certainly not for the ceremony and reception anyway.
My family and friends know how to dress in accordance with the occasion so wouldn't dream of wearing shorts to a wedding but clearly there are people who don't know the correct etiquette.
In hot countries men often wear light coloured linen suits to weddings. I've also been to plenty of hotel restaurants in Spain which have a no shorts rule.
Not sure about putting it on the invitation but assuming you have extra pages with other information then you could put the dress code on there, I'm not keen on the summer elegance bit, you could just say Dress Code is Wedding Attire, no shorts please. Don't see any problem with that.

I'm French and I have NEVER seen shorts at a wedding or any other formal event in France. French men in general are much less likely to wear shorts - they are reserved for physical jobs, sporting activities, beach, weekends etc. It's only tourists who wear shorts in town.

If your complaint is Knobbly Knees then you better make sure the washy "summer elegance" for women specifies dresses must be below the knee

If the venue has a dress code then include that as its worded

Why are so many people acting like sports shorts and Hawaiin board shorts are the only kinds of shorts? Chino shorts exist and are smart. Short playsuits for women are essentially shorts attached to a top and are common wedding attire...

And men definitely wear shorts to church here 🤣

Let them wear what they're comfortable in - they are travelling overseas and spending a lot of money to attend

Are knobbly female knees ok ? I have huge sympathy with stories of groups of lads going to school in skirts or guys going to work in a call centre in dresses after being told they couldn't wear smart shorts in hot weather.

If a knee length dress with no tights is OK why not smart shorts with a shirt ?

If you don't want knees visible just put that on the invitation: 'below the knee clothing only, please'

Or is this just about male knees?

Honestly I think it's gonna run the risk of quite a few guests being a bit put off you. If they've taken the time and expense to come and see you get married, surely you just care about their presence and not about what they're wearing? Genuinely can't imagine being so clenched that I'd give two hoots about my wedding guests' attire.

sounds heavenly!

I'm in Australia and I don't recall any guy ever wearing shorts to a wedding, even when it's never been specified on the invitation. I just thought it'd be an unwritten rule.
Just put something straightforward on the invitation like "formal attire" or something like that.

One of my bridesmaids asked if her boyfriend could wear shorts to my wedding. I said no. I can live with a fella wearing say chinos and a nice shirt and tie instead of a full suit, but I draw the line at shorts… you’re going to a wedding, not the pub!

This would piss me off. You're having a wedding in Spain, guests are paying for flights/ accommodation etc to celebrate you getting married, but you want to dictate what they wear and be uncomftable. Bridezilla springs to mind.

Are you ok with women’s knobbly knees, or do they have to wear below the knee dresses?

Maybe change the dress code wording to:

Dress code: Formal attire / summer elegance. Black tie not required.

It is probably helpful to clarify that you aren’t asking for black tie as ‘formal attire’ is sometimes a bit ambiguous, particularly for men. I don’t need it’s helpful to talk about shorts as 99% of people will know that ‘formal attire’ doesn’t include shorts. And those that don’t probably wouldn’t pay attention to any ‘no shorts’ stipulation anyway (or, worse, may deliberately contravene it out of pig-headedness !).

And FWIW I’ve been to some destination weddings in very hot places and the men mostly wore linen suits or the chino/shirt/tie combo, and nobody died of heatstroke.

I'm surprised that anyone would think of wearing shorts, unless perhaps the invite specifically said casual dress or if it was a beach wedding etc. Weddings are typically formal dress, and that doesn't include shorts?

I wouldn't have thought anyone would think of wearing shorts to a wedding, except a little boy.

Please tell me he was wearing the "Faf" speedo 😂

I don't think it needs saying . It is very unlikely that multiple people will wear shorts unless there is a heatwave and even then most will have travelled with their wedding outfit and will still wear it.The main thing for you, as host, is that your guests are comfortable and petty wardrobe requests don't ease that.