No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Love this!
Honestly can't understand why more people don't have this attitude

Yes maybe you’re right. I’d be a bit pissed off if I was using my annual leave and paying for flights to go to the wedding of someone who called me a chav!

Surely, guests would have the social awareness at an ex monastery is going to be more formal than a beach wedding, and would dress accordingly? Wouldn't they?

A dress code guide of "formal" should be enough.

Your wedding - your day.

Tell them the venue doesn’t allow shorts. Then they can choose to go or not without picking your choice apart.

I got married abroad and all the men wore tailored shorts and looked lovely next to the floaty attire of the women. And because the shorts were tailored you could hardly see the knees unless sitting down. Relax, have fun and enjoy your day. Unless the venue stipulates long trousers I wouldn’t be concerned at all. The most important thing is that you have a lovely day, not worry about what others are wearing. You want everyone to enjoy your special day with you, not melt in the heat.

Don't be daft @RampantIvy or loads of people on holiday would be going to the beach in trousers 🙄 That's like saying long sleeves don't make you any warmer than short sleeves.

She’s not being daft. Loose linen or cotton trousers are cooler than shorts.

Only the British friends and family, the Spanish ones are all stylish and classy.

Of course 😂. I am half Spanish and lived there for 20 years, I can tell you that Spaniards are not all stylish and classy!

I mean, I'd never specify a dress code. Let people wear whatever they want. It's your wedding, no one cares what the guests are wearing. Tbh, most of the men wore shorts at mine (in France, it was 35 degrees) except for my Scottish friend who insisted on wearing a full kilt outfit and was absolutely boiling. But all the French side were very taken with him so worth it 😂

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people nowadays wears smart shorts,
its only a church it’s no where special, also not many people are religious nowadays!!

I’ve been to Spain many times and I concur. They’re no more attractive, stylish or classy than us Brits. Yes we have our yobbish and (eek chavy) element but I’m assuming they’ve not been invited.

She’s not being daft. Loose linen or cotton trousers are cooler than shorts.

Do you have any facts to back this up?

Light wafty trousers always feel more cooling to me in hot weather than shorts. They create a love little breeze as you walk.

Life experience.

Trying to understand this very odd thread. Do people think Spain is hotter than most countries? Yes it’s warmer than the Uk, but shorts are not standard attire for weddings in any warm country that I can think of.

why are people so insistent that shorts are the only thing at a reasonable adult could stay cool at a formal event? Do people honestly believe people in Australia, souther us states, Mexico, France, Portugal, Singapore etc etc all never wear long trousers?

is it because people from uk traditionally go to Spain on holidays so think beach wear is all that is worn?

Sure you mean formal attire? Because that’s tuxedos for men and floor length dresses for women. Maybe say it’s a formal venue but semi formal attire is fine. I don’t think anyone would wear shorts unless they were a child in this case.

This looks beautiful. Can I come! Promise not to wear shorts or trainers! Ha

No you wouldn't, but it's also not 35-40 degrees in England!

Genuine question - do you believe everyone in hot countries wears shorts to weddings?

My parents went to a wedding in Canada a few years ago. It was probably close to 35 degrees. No one wore shorts - in fact the men all wore dark suits.

I am really puzzled by the amount of people who think shorts are common attire at weddings in hot countries. I have only ever seen it at very casual beach weddings.

What month is it and what time is your wedding? We looked around wedding venues abroad and a hotel wedding planner said to us, no not wear suit jackets or long trousers because they've had guests and grooms pass out .... If it's evening or early morning and not peak season heat then fair enough, agree to state long trousers please but I wouldn't put NO SHORTS.

Is the OP trying to plug the venue? Looks gorgeous but cannot see what the pictures really have to do with anything?

I have no idea about Spain, but in the US you could put no shorts and not be rude. A lot of country clubs don't allow shorts so I would just assume it was the venue's rules. I would word it more politely like "Please no shorts."

Rude and hardly. It’s a wedding which for most people is a formal occasion.

Seriously, what kind of grown man wears shorts to a wedding?!