No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Rarely that warm lol its not Scotland or the North Pole.

I think that’s a perfectly fine request not to have people in shorts. No different in many ways to having a black tie/smart casual/ etc request on the invite.

Doesn’t formal imply no shorts? I don’t think it’s bridezilla to not want people to turn up to your wedding dressed for the beach 🙄 Unless the wedding is on a beach 😂 You wouldn’t go to church or a fancy hotel in shorts.

Kilts to the rescue

We got married on a beach (in the uk), as in on literal sand. I did put a note in with the invitations to that effect, to let guests know to choose footwear they would be comfortable in.

I think that kind of thing is ok in invitations, but I don't think you can actually tell people what to wear, or what not to wear. I think tailored shorts could look nice to a hot wedding and probably smarter than some dresses women might choose. On the day you won't even notice so I'd let this go.

When in hot countries they usually put “trousers to be worn” for men.

Kilts would be an excellent idea.

Formal and more comfortable for the male guests.

I’m wondering this too?

Afternoon in August or morning in early June?

Brilliant! That’s a great idea

The people who wouldn't dream of wearing shorts to a wedding will wear trousers, even if it's warm. The people who think shorts are OK won't understand why you're insisting on trousers.

My uncle wore a Craghoppers parka to my wedding.

I got married in a hot country.

I did not give a damn what anybody wore, I was only glad that people had made the effort to come at all! It's a very big ask for the additional expense and additional time taken (not everybody has lots of annual leave available or can just go when they like) and no, you're not giving them an opportunity for a holiday, as you're dictating where and when.

One of my guests wore jeans. Still don't care! I'd care about my own attire and that of my groom, but everyone else can please themselves. It's more important they're comfortable!

Most abroad weddings the men wear chino style shorts,

I've been to many weddings including ours, and I can honestly say, bar the bridal party, I couldn't tell you what anyone else wore at all? In fact I'd struggle to say what some of the brides were even wearing!

You won't be popular then. Let them wear shorts in the heat (if the venue allows it.

Is the venue a cathedral or other 'high church' and that's why you don't want people to wear shorts? If so, please check as there will be a dress code for the women too, usually no bare shoulders.

If it's just that you don't like seeing men in shorts, OK I guess but I think some guests might resent it. Especially if there is no similar rule on skirt length for women.

Will you make an exception for children?

It is NOT being a bridezilla not to want people in shorts.

Some of you lot at ridiculous.

A wedding is a special occasion where everyone can make a bit of an effort.

Linen trousers are cool and comfortable in the heat.

OP, I would just say "Men, long trousers please".

I’ve been to weddings abroad and wedding in the uk when it was roasting hot and no men turned up in shorts. My DP has a lightweight summer suit.

It wouldn’t have been specified on the invitation, they didn’t need to because their friends and family know how to dress for a wedding. If you’re family don’t, you just have to accept it really.

Why is this weird??? One of my sons is getting married soon and they have asked for smart casual, no jeans. Fair enough.

The guests have made plenty of effort just by bloody being there. Why do they then have to endure rather than enjoy the wedding in uncomfortable clothing?

Does your Fiancee agree with this, or is you setting out the rules?

If you marry in a holiday destination it’s difficult to insist on non holiday clothing. I would just say: lounge suits and smart attire at the ceremony please. You will get some ignoring you and you will notice! If they are staying nearby, allow time to change if they want. However most will try hard to please you. Those who please themselves in life will continue to do so.

No knobbly knees but dresses above the knee are okay? Maybe the men should wear a skirt. Do people really pay this much attention to guest’s clothing?

My wedding was a smart dress and hats type wedding but my bridesmaid’s mum wanted to see her walk down the aisle, which was fine - massive church - but she wore jeans. I thought it was a bit of an odd choice but that was it. When did weddings become so controlling of others outside of royal circles?!

I suppose the guys can always wear a skirt to keep cool 😁

So are the woman being asked to wear skirts below the knees as well? Or is it just the men's nobbly knees you don't want to see?!

I don't think its strange to want a dress code for your wedding. I do think its quite weird to have one because you don't like seeing a particular body part...

I couldn't tell you what anyone wore to my wedding without looking at photos because it was such a whirlwind. I don't think I'd have noticed anyone's knobbly knees.

Most people, with hindsight, regret making such a fuss over their wedding.