To think most women on here hate men

[Tanyahawkes]

Sorry for the rant but I’m noticing a pattern on mn, any post involving a man and a disagreement results in multiple calls of he’s a narcissist, he’s abusing, he’s controlling, leave the bastard!

I’ll admit that a list of posts do involve behaviour that is not nice from dh and dp. So many posts also can be interpreted in many ways too, I just feel like a large number of women jump to the worst conclusion first about a strangers partner, having only one side of a story told in a short version.

for anyone misunderstanding me, if a post says the partner is hurting physically, calling names, cheating, putting the op down, then yes I agree, ltb (so long as the post is true) it’s when a post says “great relationship, today partner upset me and we couldn’t see eye to eye” and everyone calls the poor guy a narcissist etc

Frankly, the world would be a better place if the male partners of pretty much every poster on the Relationships board were instantly pulverised.

A lot of the men posted about on here are absolute cunts, to be fair.

I think a lot of women on here hate other women, too.

I know exactly what you mean. My DH moaned at me for not emptying to hoover the other day and I had a giggle about what MN would have had to say 🤣😂🤣

Spoiler: I never empty it as it’s gross.

I’m not disputing the ones where it’s obvious they are, it’s the ones where poster and hubby have argued, yes over reacted but everyone says he’s abusive and leave him, if we all did this with every argument and hurt feeling nobody would stay together long

Yeah there are a lot of women shacked up with utter shits as far as I can see. I like my DH, but he’s not horrible, abusive or lazy. I think most women can’t bear to see other women treated like shit. Thats a good thing.

Thankyou! It’s about 1 in 10000 women on here who don’t default to “ltb” on every post where it’s looking like a normal couple argument

So are many of the women.
And alot of mum netters are bullies.

So many of them are awful though! Am becoming seriously jaded!

Yeah but sometimes it’s things like being called a cunt or a stupid fat bitch. To me that is abusive. I’ve had some blazing rows with my husband and we have never verbally abused each other. I’ve been in some truly shit relationships and been called all sorts of names and yes they would have all made for awful husbands who would have made me miserable.

To be fair I think a lot of men are selfish arseholes. I’ve never really met a woman who is as selfish as the worst men I’ve met. That’s not to say women can’t be horrible - my own Mum was vile- but generally women still do the lions share of everything at home and then some.

I agree that this does sometimes happen and the advice to ‘leave the bastard’ for the slightest thing is over the top, however most of the posts are indeed about absolute A-holes. I don’t hate men at all however I do find them quite irritating but I think that’s my age (I’m happily married btw).

Of course it’s a good thing to protect each other, but what if you posted about a trivial argument, and everyone told you he was abusing you and said leave him? Some people would trust the online advice and leave the poor bloke for no real reason

Oh yes thats very true.
Its funny sometimes.

Oh undeniably most of the posts are 1000% abuse, control etc, it’s not those posts I’m talking about, it’s the silly arguments that yes upset the poster, but don’t warrant leave the bastard

It's better to comment on the actual post, otherwise we can't know whether you just have really low standards where men are concerned.
If someone posted that their dh moaned they didn't empty the hoover with no other info, no one would say he was a narcissist or that she should leave, although it's good that the poster was able to giggle away to herself, imagining they would.

As a man I can't say I've got that impression from women on here,I've posted on quite a few emotive things and personally never got that.

I would say I'm probably more critical of men than a lot of women on here and I'm a Man myself.but just remember you might not agree with someone's opinions but that's just what they are opinions,everyone is entitled to have them,even if you don't agree with them.

This space covers a wide range of topics from parenting,to relationships,fiance,domestic violence and is predominantly female.so yes you will have a lot of posts about men,but I don't think women just are critical of men for the sake of it there is usually a very good reason for it.

Show me 5 threads where this has actually happened. An OP about a ‘trivial’ argument where every poster has advised the OP to leave.

If posters are happy in their relationships they wouldn’t need to post here as much.

I’m happy to admit that I’d rather avoid most men, as once my eyes opened to the sexism and misogyny displayed by most men, even if it’s subtle, but hard to unsee.

Women are conditioned from a very young age to make way for boys then men, to put up with shit behaviour, to expect less from men as friends, partners, fathers. It’s a tale as old as time.

Many women are still comfortably propping that up and not seeing a problem with everyday sexism, for some women there’s an uncomfortable process of scales falling away from the eyes and you’ll never see men in the same way again.

Nope. I love men. Decent men.

So many posts on here, however, are from women who are clearly stuck in a relationship with someone who is making them utterly miserable and that it is a repeated pattern of dreadful behaviour from him.

We don't hate 'men'. We hate the behaviour.

Posters on this site are mainly women and a lot of us come on here for support because its an anonymous place we can rant and get support. Thats me right now, going through a divorce and yes right now I hate men. Soz.

Yes link to threads where this has happened.

Fully agree that is abusive, that’s not the posts I mean though. I tend not comment on posts where the op is clearly being abused, op will get one million comments to leave him, and rightly so, I only comment on those posts occasionally if it seems someone is saying she’s to blame, or if someone is being a twat to the op

Posts seem helpful to people who are in very difficult situations.

Others are just looking for a bit of solidarity.

The number of instances of truly awful men is worrying.

You know we only ever hear one side of the story, right?

Also I will do a classic mumsnet trope. Imagine if a man said that every female partner should be beaten to a pulp (pulverised) But its fine when its the other way round.