Am I being mugged off by DP

[Maccaj78]

I have been with my DP for 14 Years which have not been easy. He has always been difficult unless he is getting what's he wants. He has never worked and I do each month he takes my wages and then tells me what I am allowed to have and then I practically have to beg for it. I earn good money yet he always insists we have none. My money pays all bills and food and he says he doesn't have anything yet there are always online packages arriving. He screams if I ask when he got them as he got them with his own money lol!! The other I questioned this again and he told me to get out of his house (which I pay for) knowing I have no where to go and that I have only just handed him my wages. I then looked into an old email of mine that he is using and found hundreds of online receipts from DH Gate and eBay as he constantly tells me he never gets anything. He just told me they were things he sent back.. lies because his wardrobe (which I rarely go in) is full of brand new clothes in packets he told he just likes stuff. He wears the same thing everyday!! He said I'm ungrateful for the thing I have and greedy and don't want to buy him anything.
AIBU for thinking I'm being used and mugged off

@Maccaj78 You said you are in essex. Plsase look at the below. I know you don't have children at home, but they will still help or put you in the right direction.

Where does your daughter live? Woth your ex partner? Can he help you at all?

https://essexfamilywellbeing.co.uk/safeguarding/domestic-abuse/#:~:text=Your%20Family%20Hub%20Team%20will,Essex%20Tel%3A%200300%20247%200015

Your Family Hub Team will also be able to support you and your children if you are suffering from domestic abuse.

You can contact your local Team on:

Mid Essex Tel: 0300 247 0014
North Essex Tel: 0300 247 0015
South Essex Tel: 0300 247 0013
West Essex Tel: 0300 247 0122

You say you have always been submissive, why?

@PinkyFlamingo i think she means in kink terms, most people in DV relationships don’t describe themselves as submissive

How are you this morning @Maccaj78 ?

Yes how are you doing @Maccaj78?
Hope you’re safe now x

Financial slavery. You need to do that Freedom program mentioned many times on mumsnet. Please save yourself

Are you safe this morning? Please let us know if everything is ok

It's difficult to do so, but try and remain positive .... the tenancy is in his name so you have no ties to him or your property.

Be strong. You can do this!

Good luck, hope you get all the help you need.Even uf you are afraid you will be free keep going.

So pleased you've left and that he's now in custody. Such a sleazebag!

Are you away and safe, Op?

Oh my goodness, well done for getting away. You must be feeling all over the place but you have done the right thing - please don't go back to him.

Your update was terrifying. He broke your arm on a previous occasion??? He is dangerous.

You mentioned you have a daughter. By getting out of this awful relationship you are setting her a good example. You have lost your home, yes, but your new home will be somewhere you will feel safe and (in time) happy.

Really hope you're ok OP, well done and very best wishes for the future. Lots of fabulous advice on here xx