Put your frikking babies to bed!

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I went for a very exclusive dinner Saturday night. I'd been looking forward to it for ages. £150 per head place, which is a huge splurge for us.

A family of 4 were seated next to us at their 7.45pm arrival. The (about) 3 yr old was 50% pacified. The (about) 9 month old in the high chair squawked for about 30 mins then fell asleep, looking very uncomfortable slumped over the side of the highchair.

If their noise wasn't bad enough, I could hear another child crying in another part of the restaurant for about an hour. That child's noise got louder as they were pushed in their pram crossing the restaurant to leave around 9pm. I commented and gestured to my partner. I wasn't as subtle as I thought in this, as the mum looked cross, waved her arm at me and mouthed fuck off.

When my now adult children were that small, they were in bed by 7.30, unless there was an event like a wedding. We got babysitters for evening meals out...very rare as very hard to get babysitters. I would never have dreamt of taking my under 5s to quiet intimate adult spots, then letting them cry for the majority. For 1, I wouldn't have enjoyed my food and 2, neither would those around me.

There's a reason deliveroo exists. Use it. And stop being so frikking selfish. Babies need sleep, not fine dining.

And what exactly would be wrong with looking like her?

Yeah, 0/10 for that come back.

Ouch, think I just touched a nerve.

I think if OP originally said AIBU to suggest people should take kids home from restaurant if they are obviously overtired, crying etc she’d have largely got agreement. Even many people saying the OP is unreasonable agree with that. They just don’t agree that kids have to be in bed by 7/parents should never take kids out in evening.
I’ve lost count of the times I’ve got the look taking kids to theatre only for them to be impeccably behaved and the only disruption to the show being from crinkling papers or singing along from other adults so I’ve no patience with the kids don’t belong anywhere a bit expensive brigade.

Go on then, enlighten me, what would be wrong with looking like Martha from baby reindeer? Would love to hear some more of your prejudices.

But a child that normally goes to bed later isn't going to be the problem here. You're more likely to hear a whaling overtired child if they have a normal 7pm bedtime and are out for a special occasion, than a child that goes to bed at 9 and isn't overtired.

Thank you for the insight. So was the Martha comparison not intended to be an insult then? Wow you really are clever. BTW the whole point of the OP was that the annoying family came in at 7.45pm and were still there at 9pm with their tired and upset kids. I hope that has helped clarify things for you.

Honestly if you wish to be morbidly obsese to the detriment of your own health than that is on you.

I mean, did you find it insulting? Your posting style reminds me of her, that’s all. You throw out insult after insult in every single post. Not a great look. And ‘wow you really are clever’ etc, makes you sound about 12.

I know, but the whole point of Op’s post is that children ‘should’ be in bed at this time and shouldn’t be in restaurants. I don’t agree with that. Which clearly made you very angry.

There she goes, reliable Marinade. So full of hate.

Personally I prefer not to fat shame. That’s just me though, you do you.

What on earth has that got to do with this situation?!

The loud drunk would be asked to leave because they are loud and drunk and disturbing other diners. Not because of a risk of the committing violent assault.

You best tell that to the authors of this peer reviewed study

This is after about 50,000 posts from you, insulting every poster who dares hold a different opinion to you. Every single post you write, you’re straight in there with insults. I think you’re trying to come across superior, which sadly fails.

I need to go to work now, thankfully this thread is almost full.

Hey, look at you using a word in the correct context. I'm proud of you.

Again with the name calling, honestly 🤣

I haven’t seen anything I’ve posted deleted, but maybe you’re scouring everything, who knows.

But you are a hypocrite who chastises people for insults and does the exact same. Sorry if that is hard to take. I got a notification from mumsnet, why would I scour this thread for your posts? You have proliferated it with your nonsense I don't need to go looking for more...

I chastise YOU on your use of insults. Because that is all you do. Name call, name call, name call. It doesn’t make you look good or superior.

Well, I have had no such notification about my post being deleted, so you must be making it up.