Rich parent doesn’t help very poor (adult) child

[Richparentpoorchild]

I’d be very interested to hear what people make of this. My Mum is worth a few million quid. My husband and I, and our children are on the breadline and have been for at least 15 years.

We have no extra money for treats or holidays or anything nice. At Christmas, I sell things on eBay to make some money, so that I can buy family members Christmas presents. We never put the heating on because we just can’t afford it.

My Mum on the other hand, has several luxury holidays a year, always flying business class. She lives in a huge mansion and wants for nothing. I think at the last count she had eight properties. Some of these were gifted to her, from her rich parents.

I know that I don’t need to ask this really, because I know that it’s weird that she doesn’t offer any help to me, but what does everybody make of this?

I am now 56 years old, and she is almost 80. She is fighting fit healthwise and all of the women in the family live until about 100 years old, so whilst I will inherit, I will most likely be in my 70s at that time, which is not really when I’m going to need the money .

If it was you, in her position, do you think you would do something now to help me? I am on the bones of my arse.

we go out for lunch now and then and she never treats me, I always have to pay my half.

She has a boyfriend who she treats a lot,

Another spectacular failure to understand the situation. Straw man arguments abound!

Some people are very funny about money. It's like a reverse addiction where they have to just hoard all their money I think. But you should let it be known how much you're struggling and what you need, she's not a mind reader.

sounds completely made up to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP @Richparentpoorchild still hasn’t been seen since 5th May

Why respond they’re probably attention seeking/not interested/trolling!

Or maybe made peace with their evil mother and now it’s all 😘

Yes I think she should help you in the circumstances you describe. I also wondered if you have made unwise choices in your life and not taken advantage of any priviledged you may have had. It is difficult to comment when we don't know the background.

From my experience it can be a control thing. My parents never helped me. My mother is very controlling over money and manipulative in other areas too. She knows an inheritance from an aunt will be paid to me very soon (around £45K) although I've never given her any details, and I've had comments about how I'll be rich soon and countless hints about a friend of hers whose daughters paid for her hip replacement. I pointed out that maybe this person didn't have any money, whereas my mother has plenty. This is typical of the kind of stuff she comes out with. She can't bear for me to have anything and often makes spiteful comments.

I think your mother's behaviour is strange and it must be hurtful for you OP.

Odd that this thread has resurfaced after more than a month!

That said, hope you are getting on well OP.

I think the issue is that whilst your mums parents gave her a house or 2 to start with she hasn’t passed a house or 2 onto you

I actually think your mum sounds quite mean

I think the big house, expensive holidays and meals out are her way of making people envious and she enjoys getting the type of attention where people are in awe of her wealth.