Who pays first date

[Honeybu]

Ok I just been for a first date coffee.

been chatting with the guy online and he asks to meet up for a coffee so I agree and went on the date. He then proceeded to make his order ( latte and sandwich) cost £8 at the counter and paid for his bill without asking what I wanted. I then ordered mine and paid (latte and sandwich) cost £8 and paid . I got sandwich as wouldn’t want to sit and watch him eat feel awkward.

I felt he should’ve paid given that he asks me out. If I ask a friend or any new male/female friend I’m getting to know I would pay as I ask them to come for drink.

offcourse once we progress I would be paying and contributing.

Please what is your opinion on first date who should pay?

This post is not about judgement on me but your opinion and experience to share. Thanks

I agree dating should be kept cheap for men overall but with me, a man who had lined up four dates in a week, wouldn't be my man. It's better to just screen people out online through chatting a bit over dating that is cheaper. Or arrange walks or picnics in the summer months where I guess it feels more natural to just bring your own food from home, rather than paying for public establishment costs.

OLD is a numbers game unfortunately and if you live in a city multiple dates a week is possible. I have spent weeks chatting to people online, built up a positive picture of them to only to find when you finally meet there is just zero attraction or they are very different to their 'written' personality. It's very frustrating and a huge waste of time which is why I moved very early to meet people at some low key venue as a 'pre date'.