Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

Really?

You think I care?

Will you hear him choke to death on the camera?

Please don’t leave him

You know its only a few years since hotels had a listening in service. It was the norm and its exactly the same thing and was regarded safe.

I go to an annual weekend away with friends, multiple couples with kids to rented holiday homes and every one of them did what OP suggests when kids were young. Never once did anyone suggest it was neglectful.

I think the responses here are extreme and a little hysterical.

No of course not, but do you have your child with you every minute of every day whilst staying awake to make sure he doesn't choke?

Jfc no, so many things that could go wrong.
For example if you lock the door and something happens to you they are left alone.
You get drunk and lose track of time/monitor stops working and something goes wrong or they are in distress.
Someone sneaks into the house while you're busy getting shit faced.
The fact you are asking this to begin with means you know it's wrong so why try to justify it.
If you do it I hope someone calls the police on you for child neglect.

What sort of parent are you you value a glass of wine over the safety of your child a baby.
Anything could happen in a split second FFS grow up.

Shit faced?

Please don't assume everyone had your drinking issue, some of us can drink in moderation.

What has being on a ski slope got to do with anything?

I find it utterly bizarre that so many people are trying to justify leaving a 2 year old in the house alone, especially for something as trivial and non-essential as a glass of wine.

Even if you try to argue that it is really desperately important for the parent to have the opportunity to socialise tonight, then it still wouldn’t excuse leaving the child because the neighbour could still come to OP’s home.

Not liking people in your home is not an excuse to leave your child there alone. Sort your priorities out.

Do you know the op personally?
Also I don't drink, never have.

have litterally just read a book where this was the story line.. it didnt go very well!

why does the neighbour want you to go round? is it for a social visit - then no, either don't go or take DS with you.

if its an emergency - then no, get DS up out of bed!

i think no...

the couple next door its called.... the book i just read

@JKRIsRight do you know the OP personally? What a strange question, when you've been so judgemental and made assumptions.

Why do you assume "shit faced"?

Your issue with alcohol I assume ?

Alcoholic parent maybe?

Don't judge everyone by them.

Surely these things could happen with you asleep in same house though.

Would be better if neighbour came to you. Not sure if I'd be comfortable leaving the baby alone

That's way harsh. OP is fine to ask. You don't know if she's beyond depressed / isolated or anything - as you don't know her situation, so adding an insult into the mix is a bitchy move tbh

Was it fiction or non fiction?

Oh yeah!!!! I read this!

personally I wouldn't OP, I'd be too anxious to enjoy that wine

Yes, 2 year olds need supervised. Only time my 2 old was alone was in their bed with the camera on with me popping in to check on them, especially in winter when they would manage to throw their covers off and be curled up in freezing cold ball!

I appreciate the risks of a fire / intruder /choking are all low. However, if you decided to go next door to have a drink and something was to happen , would you feel happy to tell the authorities that you were next door having a drink whilst said issue occurred? I suspect your answer would probably be no, and the fact you have also mentioned Madeline McCann also shows that you have thought about this and that it's not right.

There is a difference between being in a large home or your own garden to going next door. I don't care what others say, it's not the same as locking your doors and going into next doors house and leaving your 2 year old unattended.

No of course not. Don't even think about it.

Why do you hate people coming to your house?

@TerriPie you don't sleep?

Amazing.......

Just suppose he chocked, whilst you dared to sleep!

This must be a wind up.

In case it isn't, then no.

Worrying you have to ask

I just don't understand why you are being so defensive of someone who is planning on leaving a vulnerable child alone in the house, touched a nerve?
No I never have been keen on drinking, doesn't appeal to me just like skydiving or anything else.. People like different things?
I don't know the op personally but a glass of wine can easily lead to multiple glasses, so yes it's possible she could have a bit too much and not notice something is amiss, alcohol impairs your judgement which is why you don't drink and drive.

i believe it was fiction... it was a good read to be honest, had a few twists and turns but basically mum and dad went next door for a party, left the baby (so not 2) asleep in its cot, and took the baby monitor with them.