Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

No.

Yes.
If your camera is good enough for sound and image - it's fine. You might as well be in the garden and have your child asleep - often the same distance from the house and yet it's ok?
I'm often in the garage and my child was soundly asleep in the cot, just checked every now and then and it's fine! Hazards removed is the key.

I would and did.
Semi detached, going to house next door with baby monitor. I'd have at most 10 meters extra to walk if baby started crying than if I was in my own house.
It's no wonder depression/anxiety is through the roof in this country if people are so worried about such minor stuff.

No way! Has the Madeleine Mccann abduction not taught you anything?

A pol would have been a good one for this! The answers are just yes / no!

I wouldn't be worried at all, if it were me. Assuming the neighbour isn't a mile away, at the edge of a country estate or anything! If I went to my neighbours, I'd still be closer to DC than someone else, who was sitting at the far end of their six bed property or something.

Just dont I can't believe people would even think this is OK.

Did Madeline McCann parent have a monitor watching her? Don't remember that ever being mentioned

We used to do this. But we live on a rural boarding school campus and parenting is generally more relaxed. I can't see what the issue would be in you're literally looking at the baby on a monitor. That's entirely different to Madeleine McCann.

I wouldn't personally. I can see that technically you could be no further away from the baby next door in a semi detached compared to a large detached house but I always just imagine the news story if something bad was to happen - 'mother leaves baby home alone to go drinking'

I would, there's a camera and it's a quick glass of wine.

Well I would, but apparently the kids would be dead of fire AND choking, and also abducted while I was there.

As for "Well I wouldnt, but I am detached" had to take a moment to stop laughing before I posted. Do you have Royal Doulton with a Perriwinkle design?!

Yes sure

No I wouldn’t. Not until they were much much older.

Will probably get flamed but I did this once. Toddler was with us at dinner at next door neighbours’. DH went back to put her to bed and we were going to swap. Then DH comes back with the baby monitor. I ended up staying for half an hour to 45 minutes to finish my drink.

I wouldn’t recommend it. I still feel panic and shame to this day thinking about it. I decided to stay because I’ve had a few wines and my judgement was off, but I go cold thinking about what if a fire had broken out.

Allowed children? Is there a way of stopping unsuitable people having children? if so, why is it not widely known about and widely used?

I have stayed with friends who had a MASSIVE house and sat in the garden while DD on the second floor. I was definitely quite a bit further away than if I was in my terraced house and popped next door.

However (and I don't think this is necessarily logical) I would nonetheless feel uneasy about going to even a very close neighbour. I think I'd feel a bit too separated.

If you're terraced and attached just get blankets and sit in the front garden

@ShagratandGorbag4ever not that I know of love

Of going to the other side of your massive house?!

You and the other posters that have made it clear it's about judgement (not an actual risk assessment) are bang on.

Trust me, if your baby died, that judgement would still come- if you had a glass of wine in your hand downstairs, if there were wine bottles in your recycling .... whatever.

The posters pretending it's an actual massive additional risk over and above being in a separate part of a large house are not being logical. But hey, it's fun to judge isn't it?

Her parents were much further away than next door and they didn't have a video baby monitor with them.

Yup.

Has anyone read The Anxious Generation? This kind of catastrophising is not helping our kids.

Don't Hotels have listening services anymore (have Mark Warner stopped their listening service)? I was never comfortable with those but my DC are older teens now, so I'm not sure it they are still a thing (they shouldn't be IMO).

Technically no, I would never go next door and leave a baby. However, some people have such large houses and gardens it's their child is far more abandoned than someone who goes next door if a row of small terraced houses. I was once in a large holiday home over Christmas and my very relaxed DSis wouldn't let me join the rest of the family in the evening because she thought my DC we're too far away from us. It wouldn't look much more scandalous in the newspaper if a mother had gone next door with a monitor, but in reality would be a lot safer.

Well, I probably wouldn't get as drunk as I do here on my own......

We have a cabin at the end of our garden. DP and I will go out there once the children are in bed, one of which is a baby, and work or watch a film. The nursery is the opposite end of the house, so we are probably around 20 metres away. We obviously take the baby monitor with us and pop in and out every 30 minutes or so. We’ve never thought twice about doing this.

I don’t see how this is much different to popping to an attached neighbours house or sitting in the neighbours garden with a monitor and making regular checks?