Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

Nope

No no and no.
Can they come to yours instead?

What if you got distracted, drank too much, fell asleep, lost track of time etc

You actually need to ask??
Absolutely not.

Well, last summer we sat in our neighbours garden having a drink with them instead of our garden. About 1 meter difference!!

we’re semi detached and you can just step over a 2ft high wall between gardens. Windows open (child catches on), monitor in youngests room, absolutely no issue.

I wouldn’t have felt comfortable going inside their house though as out of earshot if monitor were to freeze etc. kids were 4 & 8.

No. Awful idea.

That's alot of no's

You may also not get back into the house if you were in the garden even just bringing the bins in etc.

My aunt lives in a large detached home with garage between her and neighbours and a fair distance between entrance to both homes so no in those circumstances I absolutely would not.

In a terraced new build where I am literally steps away from my front door yes I would.

My own and neighbours back gardens are separated by a fence, however our back doors are approx 15 footsteps apart.

I could guarantee I could hear a child from there. We have smoke alarms in every room, carbon monoxide monitors, a ring doorbell on front and back, security camera on front and back, child had a video monitor in room and with sound right up could literally hear every breath and movement, child also had a bed mat. Toddler bed so no risk of falls and baby gate on room also.

I've been further away from my child when staying in a large cottage at new year.

Nope. And, I've told this so many times on MN, here's why....
We once got a call from our (detached) neighbour asking us to go round as her burglar alarm kept triggering and she'd gone up to bed and was worried. DH and I went round, short walk, we saw a smallish glow in her sitting room window. It looked weird and then the alarm went off again. We realised it was a fire, must have been tripping the electrics or something which is why the burglar alarm kept going off. We told her and she came straight down- with her two dogs - and out of the front door. We also called the fire brigade. They arrived amazingly quickly. By the time they arrived there was smoke everywhere and flames had reached the top of the roof at the front. The fire brigade told us it was SEVEN MINUTES from them receiving the call to arriving on site (thankfully we live very near to the local station). Also important to note the only reason she walked out of there was because she was in the habit of shutting all internal doors at night. She had to pass the sitting room door to exit and could feel the heat but the fire had not spread to the hall.
I will never forget it and I would never leave a child alone in the house for even a few minutes.
I also always shut all internal doors at night now too.

Bloody hell drunk too much you fell asleep... is that normal?

Surely that would be a major issue on its own!

no and no and why don't you like people in your house ? it's OK to go to other people's houses but not to come to yours ?
how you going to cope with play dates birthday parties and child's friends coming? do you not have people over for a cup of tea

The risk may be small, but the potential consequences are huge. This is not a life-threatening emergency, it is a glass of wine. I consider anyone that would do this absolutely neglectful.

No while it seems safe enough and there’s a camera. My worry is something like a fire, you wouldn’t detect that easily until it’s very obvious.

Horrendous that you even have to ask.

The couple next door? First thing I thought of. Brilliant book.

I have a 2 year old and am quite blasé about a lot of stuff but no, I wouldn't do this

Stastically the risk of harm is pretty low, but why let data get in the way of a good moral panic

I've done this in a terraced house with a monitor in hand. I figured it's no different to being in a different room if I was lucky enough to have a big house.

For me it would depend on how close the neighbour actually is. I live in a semi. I would be closer to my child's bedroom sitting in my neighbour's living room than I would be if I was sitting in my own garden. It's funny how sitting in my own garden is permitted, but taking a step to the right into my neighbour's garden would be neglect and bad parenting.

Definitely not, it’s a big no from me.

There’s all of the risks that people have already mentioned for the baby, but on top of that, if anything happens to you then you’ve left your baby totally alone.

I have heard of someone who ‘just nipped to the shop’ as it was only 30 seconds over the road. Got hit by a car, taken to hospital - no one knew about the two small children left unattended in the house.

Neighbour comes to you, or you don’t go.

But you can't see smoke and fumes when you're asleep either? The alert would be the smoke alarm, which you would hear over the monitor.

No!

And people die on the motorway, or the ski slopes, or a plane crash

Yes, why not. If he normally sleeps through and you can see him on camera, what's the issue

Well the neighbour knows Iif she hot by a meteorite that she had children at home.., so your analogy about the shop is irrelevant.

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They are not visible when you are asleep in the house at night. You might hear them or the monitor but if you are deep asleep then you might not.

I wouldn’t do it personally but the posters that say that you would be accused/prosecuted if there was a fire or choking, would you? If you had FaceTime on? Would being next door be so different from being in the house.

Guess it is a slippery slope. If next door is ok, then why not 5 doors down, internet is still the same.

Remember a case of grandma left small child in the car outside a shop for a few minutes to pop in. Height of summer, but she collapsed at the shop and was taken away by ambulance, unable to speak. Child died in the hot car.

Ooh now I'm convinced