To ask your opinion on the ear biting incident at the Snooker Championship?

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A male was caught on camera whispering to a small boy and then biting his ear in a potentially sexual way.

The police are now involved too

There looks to be a physical resemblance between the two, so I'm guessing Father, and it looks innocent to me.
Ear nips are a kind of primitive, affectionate thing with mammals I think.

When the man starts nuzzling him the kid immediately glances at the mum, like he's seeing if she noticed. The reactions are all wrong. There's a reason most people watching it feel uncomfortable.

Looks playful to me 🤷‍♀️ on the YouTube video
Dad turns and grins at the camera when the kid waves

Hiding in plain sight?

Embarrassing your child is not a shitty thing to do, that is the relationship many parents have with their child. It can be lovely, bonding and healthy.

@Workhardcryharder of course it's a shitty thing to do - he wasn't doing 'rabbit ears' behind his back, he was nuzzling into his child's neck and biting his ear ffs 🙄

Take your projections elsewhere

Erm no, you fuck off with your 'nothing to see here' attitude when you have no idea whether that's true or not. Someone earlier in the thread said it was unlikely to be abusive because it was in plain sight. I swear some of you think predatory men only operate in dark alleyways!

Luckily it's being investigated so the police are taking it seriously -thank god not everyone thinks like you.

This.

I think it's important to remember actually that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are.

These type of threads are always targeted by the 'nothing to see here' types; you see it all the time on trigger warning threads - a poster describes blatantly abusive behaviours and the MRAs descend with the 'pearl clutching' 'hysterical' 'overreacting' cries.

Some people benefit by pretending this kind of thing is just fine and totally normal - it isn't.

I saw the video. Found it repulsive. The boy doesn't laugh and give a "Get off, you eejit!" type reaction, just looks mortified and uncomfortable but accepting. It was like a slow, sensuous nibble. Gross.
Dad may have just been fooling around, but will hopefully now realise how his actions could have been misconstrued; if they were, indeed, innocent.

Omg I've heard it all now.

Embarrassing your child is not a shitty thing to do, that is the relationship many parents have with their child. It can be lovely, bonding and healthy.

How the flip is embarrassing your child a lovely, bonding and healthy thing to do? It's more akin to bullying, IMO.

I was totally prepared for this to be a mountain out of a molehill... however, I managed to find the uncensored video on YouTube.....it's certainly a weirdly inappropriate and odd thing he does!!! The boy doesn't look concerned by it though, in my opinion, not that that makes it ok.

Very strange.

I saw the unpixilated version yesterday and was shocked. I’m so glad it’s being looked into. I think you’re a very strange individual if you think this is okay behaviour

His predatory expression makes me think this wasn't some playful interaction. Made me feel a bit unwell.

I don’t have teenage kids. Probably something my mum would do to be annoying though.

Ooh that bad
im glad the police are investigating

Triggering for me. I had forgotten but my nasty abusive father used to nibble and bite and lick my ears right up until I left home, and he did it a sexual and controlling dominating way. It has just made me feel sick and brought it back for him. I had totally forgotten about it.

How narrow are the glasses you see through?

He might be predatory, he might not, the police are investigating, and don’t need keyboard warriors with too much time on their hands and no ability to reason slamming their gavels shouting for him to be hung.

He is absolutely NOT a predator from
this alone, we have NO IDEA whether it points to him being a predator. Let someone with more experience/more insight/more resources and quite frankly more emotional maturity to deal with it.

People have playful relationships with their kids. Some families spend Christmas taking the mick out of each other. Some, believe it or not, find it fun. Not for you to judge just because it’s not your idea of fun

My god that’s fucking weird. What the hell is going on there?!!!!

I feel like if you’ve actually seen the clip, unpixilated, there is literally no way you can find a way to make that innocent behaviour on the adult’s part.

Nope.. sorry. If you’ve genuinley seen that clip properly and you think that’s acceptable or appropriate… I don’t know what to say. I’m hoping you’ve only seen the pixilated version because it’s really not ok what that man was going was seriously not ok.

I'm also struggling to see how anyone can defend this!

To me the boy kind of froze and looked uncomfortable when it happened.

I appreciate every family is different and do different things but if I saw anyone (including their father) do this to either of my kids I'd be straight on the phone to the police! It's disturbing and creepy, and I am no pearl clutcher!

I really hope the young boy is ok.

He might be predatory, he might not, the police are investigating, and don’t need keyboard warriors with too much time on their hands and no ability to reason slamming their gavels shouting for him to be hung.

@Workhardcryharder literally nobody has done that though - nor have they joined in with your 'nothing to see here' dismissive bullshit.

Oh, and it takes the same amount of time for me to post disagreeing with you as it does for you to post your nonsense claiming it's totally normal to nuzzle and bite a preteens ear! 🙄

Really sorry you went through this. I do think, though, that men should not be precluded from these roles, otherwise you'd have to preclude them from teaching roles, particularly in primary school, and all roles working with children.

I've no idea how old you are, but I witnessed and experienced things too as a primary school kid, both male school teachers and police officers in (in a police station, waiting for my friend's father, the Chief of Police). Safeguarding wasn't given much - any - consideration back then. It's taken much more seriously in all walks of life now.

The un pixelated video is awful. I don't know how anyone can watch it and defend that man.

I'm glad it's being looked into by the police.

Defending this kind of behaviour and finding ways to explain it away is how child abuse continues and the predators know this and rely on it.