To ask your opinion on the ear biting incident at the Snooker Championship?

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A male was caught on camera whispering to a small boy and then biting his ear in a potentially sexual way.

The police are now involved too

I completely agree!

The biting is weird but it’s the nuzzling and the behaviour leading up to it that made me feel more uncomfortable.

There is no licking. The video is bad enough without people making shit up.

Ewww, this has given me the collywobbles. This man is treating this boy as if he's his lover. Gross. I feel sick! 😑

This is my feeling too. Concerns could have been reported without it needing to go viral. Whether it's something or nothing, the wide circulation of this clip will amp up the damage to that kid.

Lots of women are coming to his defence saying they do stuff like this all of the time.

I know of a couple women in real life who have weirdly close relationships with their kids (usually sons) and it does make me feel uncomfortable.

Part of me thinks if he was an abuser, he wouldn’t do this in a public place as they are much more careful.

But I still find it so weird and uncomfortable.

I also feel sorry for the poor kid whose friends and classmates have all seen it and won’t forget it, which is probably worrying him just as much as his dad being investigated.

Are you visually impaired?

People who don't see anything wrong in this behaviour are absolutely blind.

I agree there is no licking. He says something to him then nibbles his ear.

penjil Busybody? Are you mad? This is disgusting how you are excusing an Adult man licking and biting a child in a sexual way.look at the unpixelated version and tell me it's innocent behaviour.

I've not heard "collywobbles" in a long time!

For all the people gleefully sharing and asking for the uncensored version.

1. You are breaching this child's privacy. Yes , other people shared it before you , but you are still part of the problem. Imagine being this kid and having to face your peers, your classmates, your teachers next week . Simply because they might've watched the video. That's without the made up "facts" and speculation and added salubrious details.

1. If it is the worst case scenario, this is child sexual abuse. You are sharing and asking for depictions of child sexual abuse.

And for what? What exactly will you achieve from your sofa at home? Especially since the police are aware and are investigating.

He doesn’t appear to be saying anything he’s kind of nuzzling into his cheek in a really odd fashion (like you would with a partner, not a child) but I agree there is also no licking. Once again, it’s his facial expression as he's doing it that has made people feel it is not quite right.

A very dangerous attitude to have actually is calling men paedophiles with no real evidence apart from some possibly playful possibly not ear nibble. Christ

Well said.

It definitely looks to me like a lick, then whisper, then ear nibble.

And it's the boy's non-reaction, rather than him reacting in a jokey "ew, get away!" manner, that makes this seem particularly sinister.

Difficult to see as faces blurred.
However, my first thought it was a father and son, maybe playful and not actually biting, but the kind of mucking about parents and younger kids do. Not sure though.

The thing is, if this was 'messing about' behaviour the kid would have laughed/pulled away/pushed the dad.

You can see the child freeze when he starts nuzzling him. And during the bite.

It looks like dissociation to me. A sign that this has happened before.

And I was abused as a child (physically and mentally) and I still do this now if anyone starts shouting around me or getting violent.

That's it, the boy's reaction (or lack of it) puts this on another level. Even if it was "dad messing about" and the boy was laughing and pulling away it would be creepy as hell and totally inappropriate, but that passivity ...

This.

It’s the lack of reaction from the boy that makes this so creepy. If he’d laughed or even demonstrated surprise in some way it wouldn’t be quite so odd. It feels like this boy has no agency over himself.

It was really weird . I hope it's being looked into ? The way the child reacted it just seemed to think it was normal .

Afternoon, all. Please do remember that this concerns an ongoing police investigation so please do avoid making direct accusations on this thread, or posting videos which identify the child involved.

Many thanks.

It's always really shocking to me that on a parenting group (mostly frequented by women) overt displays of potential abuse is dismissed by some as playful, or ridiculed as 'pearl clutching'.

Even in plain sight, on live tv, people will make excuses for men. It's not ok. Even if it was playful (it isn't!) - doing something on live tv to embarrass your child is a shitty thing to do. No excuses.

the boy didnt care
agree, stop clutching your pearls and jumping to hideous conclusions.

Unfortunately your history is clouding your judgment.