DP suspicious hotel stay

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So I went away for a week on holiday with the children. DP stayed behind on his own as he had work. One evening after work he left the house and stayed at a reasonably local hotel because he got scared and felt like something was ‘off’ in the house. Apparently the lights were flickering (it’s an old house in the countryside) and he didn’t feel safe alone there.

He rang me from the hotel and we talked for about 5-10 minutes. He stayed one night and went home the next morning.

Now I think this seems really odd. AIBU to think something else went on?

YABU- this is normal behaviour
YANBU- his behaviour is suspicious

How was he when he left - check the ring camera
Did he look rushed/scared/casual?
Did he look smart and confident?

Of course I checked the ring footage!!

He is dressed as he normally would be, he wears a very standard uniform everywhere he goes. Same same. He had an overnight case and left about 6pm, hotel 30 mins away.
He messaged me to see if I wanted to chat around 9pm and we chat for a bit. Then he returns home next day at 8:30am ish having showered.

He said he booked it last minute after feeling scared. Should I ask for the booking confirmation. I don’t have access to his email or PC or anything.

Well if there was a chat around 9 it's unlikely to be an actual affair.

Time for a shag though.

I often think people are being paranoid but yes this is very suspicious!

He got scared by ghosts at 6pm?

Very dodgy, not good excuse.

I wondered if it was maybe a paid for service. He has admitted in the past to using call girls before we met.

Or it could be that he was feeling fragile and scared for the first time ever and had to stay at a hotel. Who knows?! Not me!

Any flickering lights?

Yes, clearly the classic late afternoon spookfest got him.

I feel like I might need a night away at a hotel myself next time the lights flicker.

Just Casper giving me a wave

I think you might have your answer. Classy bloke 😒

Would the lights usually be on at 6pm in your house, since it's still light at that time?

Agree with this. Its not very often my thought goes to suspicious when people post on here about this stuff, but this has me baffled. 6pm not suddenly at say, 11.20pm, just lights flickering made him scared, hotel 30 mins away and not just popping to a friend or family members, only fearful for one night and not any other. Odd, odd, odd.

He left at 6pm, whilst it’s still light, because of flickering lights?! Is it normal for him to have lights on during daylight hours?

It does sound odd but if he were meeting a woman why not just bring her back to your house if he was the only one there?
All very strange. Not sure how you could find out more though.

Oh dear 🤣

hmmmmmmmmmmm

He has admitted in the past to using call girls before we met.

I think that tells you everything, OP. Nobody gets spooked at 6 pm - the sun doesn't even set until 8.30.

Because OP would then have seen her on the Ring doorbell.

He wouldn't have even had the lights on at 6 pm!

It has been daylight beyond 6pm for about a month now.

I would be suspicious.

It doesn't look good. I'm sorry OP.

because of the ring doorbell.

He obviously stayed out for the night, I'm thinking it wouldn't have been at a hotel though, he could have gone anywhere, there would have been plenty of time for him to make an opportunity for him to nip out at 9pm to give you a call.

Is the ring doorbell a recent addition?

We do have some lights on in the day sometimes as it’s an old dark house. Some lamps etc. so he could well have had one or two on, especially a task lamp for work. But it’s still very suspicious!

Would you be comfortable doing a home visit in the circumstances? No woman in their right mind would meet at a man's (haunted) house in the countryside for casual sex.

Sorry OP, I've had an affair (not proud...stating for transparency) and it does sound really bloody dodgy to me.