DP suspicious hotel stay

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So I went away for a week on holiday with the children. DP stayed behind on his own as he had work. One evening after work he left the house and stayed at a reasonably local hotel because he got scared and felt like something was ‘off’ in the house. Apparently the lights were flickering (it’s an old house in the countryside) and he didn’t feel safe alone there.

He rang me from the hotel and we talked for about 5-10 minutes. He stayed one night and went home the next morning.

Now I think this seems really odd. AIBU to think something else went on?

YABU- this is normal behaviour
YANBU- his behaviour is suspicious

JFC, I don't know what I'd be more offended by the fact that he's cheating/paying prostitutes or that he actually thinks your stupid enough to believe that BS story and that he expects you to never ask him about it ever again 🫣

And ?

And it might have mentioned juat the 20 or so times in rhe hundreds of replies already 😁

If my DH had become so frightened in our house (before 6pm in Spring) that he felt he must flee to a hotel (until I returned to protect him)... he would rather tell me that he had been seeing another woman! 😁

The story is unlikely unless he is often very woo and sensitive ... and if he is now trying to sell the house because of its spooky nature.

So sorry that I don't have time to read 20 or so pages , you obviously do , so we can all rely on you to answer the questions.

Can we have updates please 🤣

How often is he alone for a week without you or the kids?
When I was with my ex she'd visit family a few times a year for 3 days at a time and I'd cry from the complete emptiness I felt not being surrounded by them.

I'd for sure treat myself to my own little holiday in a premier inn if it meant I'd cry a little less on some nice hotel pillows.

@Barz but would you come out with this bizarre tale after the event, or tell her beforehand?

@Catsmere I'd impulse buy the hotel looking for something to keep me busy and I don't think I ever told her how alone I felt as I didn't want to guilt trip her.

Still though, I'd explain why during the phone call and I'd be on that phone until she absolutely needed to hang up. 10 minutes wouldn't cut it. It takes me more than 10 minutes to stop telling my child how much I love them before they go to sleep.

@Barz so you wouldn't be claiming you'd fled the house in a fright because of flickering lights at 6pm (even allowing for it being a dark old house as OP mentioned).

What time of night was your phone call ? I bet it was early on so you would not disturb him later 🤔

What time of night was your phone call ? I bet it was early on so you would not disturb him later 🤔

Would you randomly call your wife saying you're at a hotel because you're scared? And, then have a shower in the morning?

He'd called her because he had been seen and needed an alibi.

He showered because his dick was wet.

Why is having a shower in the morning suspicious? Surely it's just normal routine hygiene?

Maybe the 'thing' that made the lights flicker has caught the OP, and trapped her in an alternate universe? So she can't post?
Or......maybe she's just too busy trying to sort things out?

He is a terrible liar. This could be a positive thing.

No, because he left quite early and was coming straight home. Why not just shower at home instead of taking a whole load of toiletries?

I'll tell you why! Because, after the night with another woman, you don't want to come home smelling of someone else, or smell of "sex".

😂😂😂😂😂

His story is suspicious, but I don't think the shower thing is. Why wouldn't you use the 'free' hot water at the hotel?

What? That's rubbish. If I was staying in a hotel I'd have a shower in the morning before getting dressed. No way would I go home to shower. That's just crazy talk

Is there an update?

Even if you’d only read the OP’s posts, it has been covered in those.

I do think the whole episode is suspicious as fuck but agreed. Showering is probably the only part that isn’t suspicious.

Me too. I also like to use the hotel's electricity/gas rather than my own so I'd always shower at the hotel. No way I'd get dressed, come home and then shower at home.

Surely if he was going home to an empty house it wouldn’t matter what he came home smelling like. Showering at home would probably be more suspicious than showering at the hotel although I don’t think you could read much in to that either way.