DP suspicious hotel stay

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So I went away for a week on holiday with the children. DP stayed behind on his own as he had work. One evening after work he left the house and stayed at a reasonably local hotel because he got scared and felt like something was ‘off’ in the house. Apparently the lights were flickering (it’s an old house in the countryside) and he didn’t feel safe alone there.

He rang me from the hotel and we talked for about 5-10 minutes. He stayed one night and went home the next morning.

Now I think this seems really odd. AIBU to think something else went on?

YABU- this is normal behaviour
YANBU- his behaviour is suspicious

Hotels are not allowed to provide this information unfortunately. But he 100% stayed with another women.

That’s the strangest story ever.

In a budget hotel, it's not like they have a receptionist who cares about guests who've checked out.

Also, he definitely checked in a hotel. He definitely used to use call girls in the past. Hmmm

I've seen a lot of replies over the thread saying that if he doesn't call an electrician it's BS. This isn't the point of the thread but does everyone genuinely call an electrician for one episode of flickering lights?

No, but we also don't book an overnight stay at the hotel.
If you cannot stay at own home because you are so scared of something, it is 100% normal to call in professional.

He's just trying to cover his tracks in case he's spotted there by anyone else and tells the wife. If he was smart, he wouldn't have said anything and booked out of town. But he's an idiot lol

So he was so scared to be at the house because he thought there was some kind of weird paranormal activity there - but was totally happy with his wife and children being in this scary haunted house just 24 hours later. If it was so scary he would have called a vicar or ghostbuster to come sort the ghosts out before allowing his family back in the home surely?

@Rainbowismyfavouritecolour do you routinely check the ring doorbell.
Because how else would you have known he was gone out.
He basically gave himself away.
Why would that be?

OP could have fun (though I'm sure she really doesn't find any of it funny, understandably) running with this story, inventing all sorts of ghostly happening, hiring a medium to come out to the house...make the devious twat doubt his own sanity.

When people feel guilty about something, there is a tendency to overcompensate. Along the lines of "the lady doth protest too much."

If the lights were flickering I'd probably turn off the lighting circuit and leave the rest on because I don't have the spare cash to waste an entire freezers worth of food. (The lights and the sockets are always on different circuits.)

Also if you did turn the freezer off, food is safe in there for 48 hours if you don't open the door, so if you ever have a power cut less than that, there is no need to throw everything away.

(I know this isn't really relevant to the obviously cheating husband thread, but worth knowing!)

Oh I would! I slept in my car once because there was a moth the size of a coaster in the flat I lived in back then

Well of course he would say that!
Sounds very much like something my cheating ex-husband would have said. Did he actually go to this hotel???

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My god. If a bloke did this to a woman and she posted on here, she'd be told to go to the police. Fucking hell

That tip about the freezer is gold ☺️
OP - What is your gut instinct? Has this happened before? Has he mentioned being superstitious? Does he want to move? You know him, does any of it ring true?

OP he's insulting your intelligence with that Batshit excuse. How gullible is he taking you for?
He's absolutely gone to the hotel to cheat and he's only telling you half the story because of the ring doorbell telling on his absence.

You might never find the absolute evidence of an affair but you need to sit him down and tell him you know he spent the night with someone. Don't let him gaslight you.

Like every hotel receptionist hasn't heard that one a million times 🤨😆

I find it odd that a man would suddenly be scared, especially at 6pm.

Has he been scared any other time?

Hugely suspicious - I'd bet he was meeting someone.

You need to play the long game and not let him know you are on to him.

I’ve just read out the opening post to a male relative and he says it’s total “Bullshit” that a man would be scared enough to sleep in a hotel.

He said “ He’s having an affair “

I think it sounds so implausible it has to be true.

Ngl, I think I might've done the same. Those big loggerheads freak me out more than anything supernatural 😂

More straightforward reading is that it sounds so implausible it's implausible.

Your DHs story is rubbish. I don’t believe him for a minute. There is something going on. God knows what

Id say to him that maybe you BOTH should go to the hotel he stayed in if the lights are too unsafe, then watch his arse fall out. Yes hes probably cheating