Selling his gift

[Emstar444]

So, aibu? My partner decided that after I had scrimped and saved to buy him a gift he had asked for, to sell it on ebay, along with another gift I had purchased at his request for him. It wasn't due to fit or anything like that, he just decided to, and I quote 'get some money for them'. What they have sold for is far below what I paid for them, even though he knows how hard I struggled to get the money together to buy the things he wanted. Am I being unreasonable to feel miffed about this?

Good for you. He sounded an awful person, good riddance.

Well done OP in getting rid of him. Best wishes going forward x

Please end this relationship. He does not respect you X

@Emstar444

Very well done OP. You deserve much better than this and I hope someone better is in your near future. Enjoy your weekend free of this absolute twat. 🌹

I don’t think this is the making of a long term relationship!

Ditch him. Now. Go go go!

I’m thinking he needs kicked to the kerb…what an absolute a$$hole move

He’s a tw*t. Why are you still with him?

That's awful
And it would make me wonder why he's so desperate for cash.

Oh hell no. So he’s got you to get him expensive gifts so he can then keep the money, he’s clearly planned the whole thing…. Something tells me this is probably one of many things he does like this, I can’t see this being a “one time” sort of behaviour. I’d be asking him some serious questions

I agree too. It sounds dramatic but it also sounds like the start of an abusive relationship. Get rid.

Also, regardless of whether you can easily afford those items, if he didn’t like them or they weren’t suitable etc he should tell you politely and do the refund/exchange through you, not say, I’d like some money for them. That’s such weird manipulating behaviour. And it’s not very classy at all.

Because this is really rude. It’s your partner and two weeks after if you realise that, you’d say get your money back love, they weren’t quite right but thank you, not immediately sell them and say I wanted some cash for them. This is such an odd comment.

Bull. If someone you respect/like busts their ass to buy you something and you realise you don’t like it or whatever, you don’t sell it on! You return it like a decent person would do. There is no situation where this behaviour is excusable, none.

Or tell his partner and let he return?!!!!????

Yes how anyone can justify this is beyond me. Like how can anyone think this is reasonable? I don’t like it so sell it on?! Tel the person that bought you the effing gift!!!!

@Lucyh179 following the OPs updates I am now aware that he appears to be a jerk and thankfully she has dumped him.
However.....I do know of many people who frequently buy things, use them once and sell them on. Or buy things on impulse, don't return them but sell them on instead. Or buy things, decide they don't like it after all and sell it on.
A lot of people seem to think that is normal. I mean look at people who do Shein/Temu/Primark hauls and just sell on the bits they don't want.
Also to a lot of people buying expensive designer stuff is normal and they think nothing of the cost.
Now this is NOT something I would ever do.
But I know a lot of people who do - that's why originally I was curious whether he was just one of those type of people or just a jerk.
The answer has turned out to be jerk.