Selling his gift

[Emstar444]

So, aibu? My partner decided that after I had scrimped and saved to buy him a gift he had asked for, to sell it on ebay, along with another gift I had purchased at his request for him. It wasn't due to fit or anything like that, he just decided to, and I quote 'get some money for them'. What they have sold for is far below what I paid for them, even though he knows how hard I struggled to get the money together to buy the things he wanted. Am I being unreasonable to feel miffed about this?

Run for the hills. This is seriously weird behaviour. Why are you tolerating it?

OP is aware that he can sell it.... he is selling it.

Her question was is he being unreasonable?

I've no issue with people returning stuff if it doesn't fit/not suitable.

But this is disrespectful, rude and unappreciative. I can't think of any good reason bar being desperate for money which you say he isn't.

The only reasons I can think of for him doing this is he literally doesn't care about you, he's extremely selfish or he's trying to mess with your head.

Not one of those things would make me want to stay with him.

What he did was, at the very least - ''bad form'' as the saying goes. Very rude and bad mannered.

I would dump him for this. He's showing a stunning lack of respect for the effort and expense you went to.

I used to have a friend who did this habitually. We often did car boot sales together to split the cost of the pitch and to have something fun to do on a Sunday morning. On one occasion as we were setting up I noticed that several things she was selling for peanuts right under my nose were things I'd bought her as gifts, including an expensive gift that I'd picked out especially for a very recent birthday. I never bought her anything again.

Run

He's sticking two fingers up at you.

Never buy him anything of value again. Or anything that you need to save for.

To echo many others on here - don’t buy him any more gifts. Hopefully, you won’t be with him for much longer. He has low emotional intelligence to think he can sell hard earned gifts. He is charmless and possibly selfish and uncaring.

What a prick.

I would be saying bye bye.

on the plus side. It’s not a huge amount of money to find out what an arse he is. See it as a good investment and run.

LTB

Easy solution. Less than a year in?

Throw this one back. He's not a keeper.

The 2% who think you are being unreasonable… are you on crack? This is BANG out of order I’d be FUUUUUUMING

He obviously doesn't appreciate the efforts you went through to buy him these items. Just send him a card in future.

I'd be really angry!

His actions sound deliberate with the motive to hurt you. I was in a relationship with someone once who would do all manner of similar things, very thought-out stuff with the aim to cause me humiliation and hurt. There are people that are this disordered.
Just run OP, this is not a good person you're dealing with.

The cheeky mare! That’s awful.

His values seem very different from yours, OP. Are there any other red flags?

This ^ all day long and twice on Sunday.
I’m sure it’s not the first instance and, if you brush it off, it will not be the last, or the worst. At best he’s thoughtless and you deserve better than that.
At worst he’s testing you, and he will eventually destroy you.

Please think about whether you can endure this kind of behaviour, and worse; or to be more objective, if a friend told you this had happened to them, what would you advise them to do?
Do that.

No more presents for him.

Yes. Or, if you're feeling really generous, sellotape a £2 coin to the inside of a Card Factory card.

Id be leaving him. for me its disrespectful.

We don't live together and have been in relationship for less than a year.

Life is short. He's a prick. Find someone better.

@KreedKafer I couldn’t agree with you more. @Emstar444 Protect yourself from this man and ditch him. Then block him.