To break up over this joke?

[hollyfrost]

The man I’m dating recently made a casual joke (talking about something he and his friend found funny) that’s been bothering me, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not - paraphrasing, “what’s the difference between a woman and an egg? I don’t laugh when I beat up an egg”

For context, I’ve been seeing this man for a few months now and our relationship seemed to be very promising. He’s very kind, charming and generally a lovely person as far as I can tell

What I can’t understand is how he possibly found this even slightly funny? I wouldn’t take offence at a slightly vulgar or disrespectful joke, but this surely goes beyond that

that said I appreciate he’s a man and possibly I’m being naive and too sensitive about this. Other than this he’s shown me no reasons to be concerned

I’d appreciate any advice, thanks

Well they're all boys together laughing about VAW. Marvellous.

Depends what your tolerance level is for casual misogyny,but I wouldn't expect him to make a great equal life partner.

I don't mind an offensive joke if they're done well. That was just poor and not funny. I'd dump him for having a poo sense of humour.

Yep, in addition to his other charms he evidently doesn’t know much about cooking

Some tasteless jokes are at least witty. This one is neither witty or funny.

That’s right. To be honest I was confused why he felt the need to tell me this at all

Possibly to test your reaction.

That would be my thought OP. Run.

Or he really really thinks this joke is the funniest joke he’s ever heard in his life and wanted to share it with you, in which case dump him anyway because he probably also laughs like a drain at knock knock jokes.

@hollyfrost , it's the sort of comment my XP would have made. I remember a couple of them that had me thinking 'Ugh' about but I let them go.
He's telling you what he thinks of women. Listen to him.
It's a red flag.

I would literally say you've been thinking about this, it's been bothering you & want to ask him what he thinks that joke meant.

Ewww

I'd have LTB by now

And me. He’d be history.

do you have a daughter (s) OP?

Weird joke who laughs when beating an egg anyway? Doesn't even make sense.

But he's a dick for finding it funny

Yeah, he would say that. He's making a fucking fortune out of it and laughing all the way to the bank.

Red flag

How is his English? Could it be that he was laughing along with his 'friends' but didn't really understand the joke. Hence him recounting it to you?

"Have you told him you were offended? For me it would depend on his reaction if you did."

The suggests it's Ok for him to say it if he says it in front of someone who agrees......

His English is good, he went to university here, you could mistake him for a native speaker if not for the accent but I still imagine it’s not perfect when it comes to certain nuances

It's a very Jimmy Carr style joke isn't it.

I wouldn't be impressed. I'd say to him 'that joke you told me the other day, can you explain it to me?'. And see what he says.

I can't believe anyone thinks this is OK....

Tells you a lot about what the men he likes to hang out with find funny , they're very basic .

I don't know how any one can find that funny and I think you should just end it now for your own sake. There's no point trying to make up excuses or justify it.

Hey hey no need to bash single people/the state of being single just because this guy is a dick. We are not responsible for him.

@hollyfrost
Is he your man just on his best behaviour to impress you until he definitely knows he can be more comfortable revealing his more authentic side then?

And he has now reaching that stage now or and is now just testing the waters to see how you react then/ can get away with you in regards of being emotionally/ pschological abusive then?

Only time will tell i suspose