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AIBU?

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aibu not shaving my legs

240 replies

hairybeary · 01/04/2008 10:58

tis is causing a bit of friction (excuse the pun) between me and dh.

i really cant be bothered doing it, its the winter and i am living in jeans, when the summer comes round and i am in crops etc i will start doing it again then.

last night i had my legs streched out on the couch and he made a really childish comment about it, basically along the lines of he thinks its horrible and wants me to wear socks (in my own f**king house)

to be honest it was more the childish way he put it that pissed me right of, had he said it in a joking way i possibly would have toddled of upstairs and got a razor out.

this is the same man who finds periods yucky and wont ever let his dc see him without having at least shorts on, he has a very childish view about a lot of things.

anyway once we went to bed last night he made a move and i said no-way, if my legs were that horrible then why on earth would he want to have sex with me.

aibu about this? do you always have your legs done? i shave under my arms every few days but thats because i am terrified of having b.o. i would leave them in the winter as well if i could.

btw my legs are not even that bad, i have fair hair so its only some dark hair around my ankles that are noticable, above that you cant see anything.

OP posts:
fuzzywuzzy · 01/04/2008 19:16

does waxing your bikini line hurt very much, I'm thinking of getting it done at a salon first as I cannot bear to rip it off myself, I'm imagine the first time will be horrible!!!

Having said that with regards the OP, I must admit I thought it was a bit of an April fools thing but it does seem to have gotten a little serious. I tend to leave my legs in winter and then epilate in summer.

harpsichordcarrier · 01/04/2008 19:16

whether or not you choose to shave is a matter of personal choice.
being hairless is not the only acceptable way to be attractive and because a woman chooses not to shave does not mean she doens't feel attractive.
blimey I can't believe that this argument is even going on in 2008

noddyholder · 01/04/2008 19:17

my dp likes hairy armpits and i give him a quick flash if i have left them a while before I whisk it off i don't like it myself so i remove it

harpsichordcarrier · 01/04/2008 19:18

well the feminist argument is:

hairy = unattractive because men have been convinced that women are not in fact adult females but are in fact smooth and hairless girls.
and the media, the porn industry and also women collude in this.

FourPlusOne · 01/04/2008 19:18

OP - you should be married to my DH. I use an epilator and need an half an hour to myself every week or two to 'keep on top of things'! Usually do it on a sat or sun morning and will just say I'm off to the bedroom to sort my legs. He always rolls his eyes heavanwards as if I am being the silliest person in the world! He hasn't seen them at their worst really though (have had periods during the winter when I let it go a bit!) and am sure that he'd have a shock if he did, as I am dark haired.

Can't be doing with waxing - the regrowth is such a pain and don't even like to show my hairy legs to the beautician. Doing ot at home too messy.

I epilate armpits every couple of days though - makes me feel less sticky and sweaty.

Am v jealous of those with light fair body hair.

zippitippitoes · 01/04/2008 19:20

i dont knopw about him commenting but i shave everdya in the shower it is just part of my shower and doesnt need any cream or saop or anything just takes a couple of minutes

i have very dark thick long hair and dont like it and i swim so prefer t smooth legs

and i think they are sexier by a long way

MotherFunk · 01/04/2008 19:22

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mrsruffallo · 01/04/2008 19:22

Agree harpsi-that's what I thought
Esp. shaving pubic hair off- yuck!
I never wear make up, blow dry my hair, shave or any of those things and I wouldn't expect my dp to comment-well, he wouldn't be with me if he had as I find it a very odd attitude
I really don't know what the big deal is abiout a bit of body hair
I can think of very attractive women with body hair

dittany · 01/04/2008 19:23

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Heated · 01/04/2008 19:24

Had a cast on my leg for 6 weeks and never mind the muscle wastage, I was more upset with having a yeti leg.

I am pale with dark hair & there is no way I'd go au natural. If I could afford it I'd have laser treatment, but until then I'm prepared to use a bic whilst in the shower.

However, if dh made a rude comment, I'd be applying immac to his eyebrows in his sleep.

CoteDAzur · 01/04/2008 19:30

This is the first time I hear about waxing possibly damaging hair follicles.

What kind of damage are we talking about? I have been waxing regularly for more than 25 years and my body hair is (unfortunately) as healthy as ever. Can I look forward to it getting finer or disappearing altogether?

More seriously, I am sceptical about this 'waxing damages hair follicles' theory. If you want to read about damage, find out about the ingredients of hair removal creams.

mrsruffallo · 01/04/2008 19:31

Oh MF -not a feminist. What is that supposed to mean?

nappymadmummy · 01/04/2008 19:31

YANBU.

I hate shaving my legs. I get them waxed now...an hour every 5 weeks while I get to chat to an adult...tis bliss

nappymadmummy · 01/04/2008 19:32

had only read OP

zippitippitoes · 01/04/2008 19:34

nope i find hsiry men sexy...

hairy chest yep hsairy legs

dont even mind hasiry shoulders

tho there is a line a t somepoint

i dont mind what other women do

i like rubbing my smooth legs against their hairy bodies lol

just personal preference

i also dye my hair

and go to the gym

mrsruffallo · 01/04/2008 19:35

www.postmodern.com/~fi/pattipics/htm/with_iovine_bruce.htm
Patti doesn't shave and she is gorgeous

zippitippitoes · 01/04/2008 19:36

and if you want a man to go down on you then it seems reasonable if they prefer not to have mouthfuls of hair to trim it a bit

zippitippitoes · 01/04/2008 19:37

im not gorgeous before or after shaving pmsl

but definitely slightly more gorgeous feeling after

self esteem and all that..i know i look better if i do these things so i feel better

and i quite like men

harpsichordcarrier · 01/04/2008 19:43

MF you are not a feminist you don't say
yes, I would say your feelings of what is or isn't sexy is related to the media images of attractiveness. it would be bizarre, really, to suggest that our feelings of what is attractive are not infelunced by the culture in which we live. pretty trite stuff, really.
shaving off pubic hair makes me go
and why is it only aesthetically pleasing on women? why not men?

dittany · 01/04/2008 19:47

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/04/2008 19:50

yes and to shave our genitals until they look like pre-pubescents
dodgy, imo.

expatinscotland · 01/04/2008 19:55

Mine's definitely gotten lighter over time, Cote! But like franca, I'm very, very hairy and have very fair skin with really dark hair.

Like you, I've been waxing for over 20 years.

I'd actually like to try sugaring.

A Pakistani friend tells me that's what is done in her culture and it works well on thick, courser hair like mine.

I'd be off like a shot for laser treatment if I won the Lotto.

zippitippitoes · 01/04/2008 19:56

well i think there is room for give and take

last time i saw my friend he said did i want him to be clean shaven, with beard with goatee with bit under bottom lip etc whe we go away

so he is offering me the choice based on what i like oe feel like

seems reasonable to me to talk about these things

he seemed to think it was uip to me when we are together how much shaving he does

when im not there he can do something else if he wants

MotherFunk · 01/04/2008 19:57

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NomDePlume · 01/04/2008 19:59

what do you perceive 'feminist' to mean, MF ?

You make it sound negative.