Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

[Washingupfury]

I have name changed for this. Dh and I have a disagreement about washing up water. He feels that you fill the sink, start with cleanest stuff eg glasses work your way through to the dirty stuff and no need to change the water unless the bubbles disappear, even if the water looks dirty.

I fill the sink, wash, rinse under running water, and if the water gets cloudy I change it.

I just caught him washing a cereal bowl in this:

I think it's disgusting. He thinks it is fine 'as it was the last thing to be washed'. We have agreed to abide by the MN poll for future washing up.

So, YABU DH is sensible and timesaving, of course the last few things will be washed in cloudy water.

YANBU DH is filthy and clean water and rinsing are the way to go.

You don't start with the dirtiest thing first. You start with the things you put in your mouth. Cutlery. Then glasses and mugs and then plates and bowls and then pans. I fully expect to have to change that water at least once.

I think filling up a sink is disgusting because when you use it to clean off the food dirt it's got everyone's saliva germs in there so nothing is clean apart the first dish.

My water doesn't get that bad.

Are you not rinsing the plates off before washing them?

I rinse off the loose stuff (sauce, gravy etc), then wash up, then rinse the soap off before placing on the draining board.

Now I wonder if I'm doing it wrong! 😂

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Never rinsed in my life. Somehow I’m still alive. (And I've never tasted soap either).

Perfectly fine. Stopping your spouse mid-chore to literally photograph what they're doing and putting it on the Internet in an attempt to invite scorn and criticism? Less so.

I know it’s lighthearted but I’d be grateful he washed up.

That’s what I do - almost all the food residue gets wiped off before it goes into the bowl so the water stays cleanish.
For the ‘rinse under running water’ people, do you have the tap running the whole time you’re washing up? Or have I misunderstood, because that seems massively wasteful?

I couldn't give a shit so long as it was visibly clean.

I don't do either method.

No plug, running hot water, soap. Each item is washed and rinsed separately that way, though I do start with things like glasses first, then work my way down to the dirtier things to prevent grease on the scourer.

I think it is disgusting that you waste a valuable resource by rinsing everything under running water

@Washingupfury apologies for my terse reply. I didn't realise you were being light hearted.

Judging from this thread, germ phobia seems to be responsible for a lot of water waste. Your DH’s way is fine.

People may be shocked to know that there are entire countries that don’t use washing up bowls. Why would you put a plastic bowl inside the sink? Makes no sense!

I think you would be surprised at the colour of the water in your dishwasher. Way dirtier than this bowl. To clean effectively, there needs to be a detergent to break the surface tension and emulsify oils/ fats and an agitant, a cloth/sponge in the case of a sink and high pressure water in the case of a dishwasher. The water doesn’t need to be clean until the rinse.

Honestly never been able to get my head round the idea that people think it’s ok not to rinse. So plates have been “washed” in a bowl/sink full of food residue and people’s saliva….

That's a bowl. So why isn't it going in the dw?

If not a lot to do then do run it that night

Sometimes mine is run every other day.
Sometimes once at night
Sometimes twice if had people over so empty after lunch

Then don't run it that night

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How high are some people’s water bills? How would you cope if/when water shortages come into play. How do people who wash everything under a running tap dry things, use a clean cloth for each item?

This is a British thing. The washing endless dishes in filthy lukewarm water and not rinsing. I have not seen this happen in other countries. I find it really fucking gross.

I've clearly already agreed with her DH, but come on, this performative worrying about water just to attack OP is ridiculous. Have you any idea how much water companies themselve waste from a shit response to their leaks?

How clean is the sponge? That's what gets filthy and left and then used again.

Mostly goes in the dishwasher, best glasses, wooden handled knives and things that didn't come clean in the DW get hand washed. Not much of it so no water change here, but I do rinse just to get the soapy water off.

#team dh

I'd probably change the water before it got that cloudy, but not if there were only a couple of things left. Neither of us rinse either.

We hand-wash kitchen knives, wooden things, stemmed wine glasses, one jug that eventually goes cloudy in the dishwasher, non stick pans (we only have one non stick frying pan and one we use for scrambling eggs), baking trays and roasting tins, thin plastics and the recycling (tins and plastics)

Having said that it isn't usually me who washes up.

I think we need to stop branding other people's habits disgusting. Humans aren't meant to be sterile!

@Bunnyhair if we were all continually ill with stomach issues then you might have a point, but we don’t so that method of washing is okay.

If you have to rinse everything separately how do you wash clothes? Do you wash underwear with other clothes?

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