Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

[Washingupfury]

I have name changed for this. Dh and I have a disagreement about washing up water. He feels that you fill the sink, start with cleanest stuff eg glasses work your way through to the dirty stuff and no need to change the water unless the bubbles disappear, even if the water looks dirty.

I fill the sink, wash, rinse under running water, and if the water gets cloudy I change it.

I just caught him washing a cereal bowl in this:

I think it's disgusting. He thinks it is fine 'as it was the last thing to be washed'. We have agreed to abide by the MN poll for future washing up.

So, YABU DH is sensible and timesaving, of course the last few things will be washed in cloudy water.

YANBU DH is filthy and clean water and rinsing are the way to go.

I do the method your DH uses, but then give each item a final rinse in running hot water to remove the detergent residue.

Unless there is something very dirty I wouldn't change the main bowl of water.

But I do put pans on to soak and then wash them separately.

As long as you rinse in clean water its fine. I often dont change the water until its far worse, which happens easily if you wash up lots of plates and pots.

What I find discusting is when people dont rinse off the fairy liquid.

I have read somewhere that there is so many ways of washing up as there are people which sounds just about right.

Men are such vile creatures.

Its the not rinsing which is disguasting. I wonder how much washing up liquid people actually consume over the course of life if they dont rinse their dishes.

Why?

I’m with you. Always rinse with clean water at the end. The thought of drinking from or eating from anything that comes out of the dirty water is gross. Not to mention the washing up liquid that needs to be rinsed off even if the water is still clean. Your husband should really respect what you are asking for. It’s not a biggie to rinse at the end.

Not enough to kill them obviously. My parents had a combined 196 years’ worth and whatever the equivalent was before it was invented.

The mere fact he doesn't rinse says it all. Why oh why are so many people so happy for stuff they eat from get "washed" in dirty water, and then shoved in the drying rack so the dirty water dries on it??? It's fucking disgusting. I can't believe the amount of people who are ok with it! I remember when I was 13 my best friend "washing" a tea mug by swishing it in dirty dishwater then emptying it, and making tea in it without rinsing it. This is why I don't have tea at people's houses. Luckily my husband rinses everything as do I

So I run a bowl of hot water first and put the dishes etc in so they can soak.

Then I run the hot tap, pick up an item/dish out of the water, wash the dishes with the soapy sponge, rinse off the soap suds under the hot tap and then put on the drainer.

I don’t change the water because the items aren’t being washed in there, they’re only in there to soak temporarily and they get picked up, washed and rinsed under the hot tap.

From what I have read the dish washer doesnt actually save water. The eco progremme often doesnt rinse the dishes properly, and sometimes even a normal programme doesnt.

@katepilar where did you read that?

Detergent breaks down bacteria. I'm more bothered about my DH using a million squirts of it and me having to rinse everything out so I can't taste it after. This is slightly beyond where I'd leave things but I have been known to collect dish water for the garden (it's never had a negative effect on the plants or soil that I've seen) so I feel less bad about starting fresh. I collect the cold pre-run as well. My house looks like Signs on steroids though so I know that's a bit bananas. (I have a lot of houseplants too.)

The water going straight down the sink with this method makes me twitch. Even just reading it. I'd need to disconnect the pipe or have something intervening before it reached the drain!

I hope he trips one day…

@AGodawfulsmallaffair if climate change continues and water shortages become more normal this might be something some of us will have to do. Hosepipe bans won’t be sufficient

You’ve just reminded me of summer 1976 when it didn’t rain for about nine weeks and we had standpipes. We were told to put bricks in our cisterns, not flush the loo for liquids and share bath water. You’d have been lynched for washing up under a running tap if you were fortunate enough to have one.

Dried on soap is still soap.
Unless you have got a magic drying rack that moves the soap away?

It’s so dilute it evaporates with the water. 🙄

I use a dishwasher but scrape plates and food waste goes into the foid bin collected by the council. We had a pig food waste bin when I was a small child in London. Mum would put kettles of water onto boil as she dished up food. She put the cutlery in hot water to clean. First glasses were washed, then cutlery, then china. Water was changed. Saucepans were washed last. We would have pudding and cups of tea or coffee after a meal. My sister's friend had to rinse all washing up, dry and put away. My cat's bowls are in soak before going in the dishwasher tonight. I save rainwater for tge garden and for the cat to drink. I would consider using itfor the toilet. I still scald the cutlery by standing it in ajug of hot water with ecover washing up liquid. A friend washes her hair.with.rainwater. In theclong term the cost of water rates or emptying septic tanks will ibfluence how we use water

Same here - that water looks rank!

As we are on a water meter I am definitely Team DH but if I'm about to use either a glass or mug straight after then I would give it a quick rinse to get rid of any suds on it.

Dd says that they’re taught in Home Ec to fill the sink with soapy water, put used cooking utensils in the sink, give items a swish and then on the draining rack.

I can only think that this ‘taught’ method is down to expediency for time/ limited resources etc

I wouldn’t even put my hand in that to pull the plug out 😆

Running tap. Washing up bowls have always been disgusting.

Reminds me of a Come Dining episode where the host dropped prawns in dirty dish water and fished them out 🤢.
Hope Channel 4 head health and safety on hand.