Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

[Washingupfury]

I have name changed for this. Dh and I have a disagreement about washing up water. He feels that you fill the sink, start with cleanest stuff eg glasses work your way through to the dirty stuff and no need to change the water unless the bubbles disappear, even if the water looks dirty.

I fill the sink, wash, rinse under running water, and if the water gets cloudy I change it.

I just caught him washing a cereal bowl in this:

I think it's disgusting. He thinks it is fine 'as it was the last thing to be washed'. We have agreed to abide by the MN poll for future washing up.

So, YABU DH is sensible and timesaving, of course the last few things will be washed in cloudy water.

YANBU DH is filthy and clean water and rinsing are the way to go.

Off topic but do you hand wash the knives because they get rust looking marks in the dishwasher? This happens to me only with the knives!!

#TeamDH

Team #DH but I would rinse.

Agree. Do the crockery and glass unless special in the dishwasher ~ pans soak and then get washed and blitzed in hot water then put in the drying station. Never leave anything longer than 3 hours in a soaking sink as bacteria breed in the water.

You’ve got to rinse!!!!! Water is fine if he rinses before and after.

OP may have thought she was asking a fairly reasonable question but look what it’s led to! This level of puerile rubbish!

Come on people (not you, @Tas1984 - you should clearly be doing your teeth or something 😂) - just use some common sense and try not to be sucked into the ‘I’m better than you; you’re yucky’ cycle.

Honestly, my dd’s Y5 buddies would be embarrassed by this level of squabbling 😳

Yes, of course. Dishwasher is the best option.

why do that ? just put them in the dishwasher and turn on when full
YOU HAVE A DISHWASHER
use it. then it will save a load of arguments

I think you're both disgusting...I just leave the tap running and wash it using that water... 😂 tbf as long as it gets rinsed in clean water after a good scrub with washing liquid does it really matter?

just use your dishwasher

YABU. I wash like your DH. My DH does too. My parents did. Theirs probably did too. As long as there is still soap in there's it's fine.

All our pots are sparkly clean when we put them away. Running the water the whole time to rinse is such a waste, on top of your full sinks of water you're changing several times across the wash. One sink (maybe two for a big or particularly mucky load) is perfectly fine.

YANBU because he doesn't rinse. Soapy yucky needs to be rinsed off.
He could put it on the drainer and pour water on it at leeast.

I run the water the whole time, my DH does this ^. Yes mine wastes more water but the washing up is actually clean! His is cleaned in dirty water! When I eat I just have to imagine it was I who cleaned this peticular plate! YANBU!

@Itsdeepitsblue do you can’t actually tell how each item was cleaned? Do you have a stomach upset after you have eaten off a plate he has cleaned?

Urgh the amount of grossness here!! Rinse things in running water please!!!!!!!

Hey I think it’s flipping amazing that you have a DH that does the washing up! My own piles up dirty plates and cups NEXT to the dishwasher, it drives me insane!

I have a dishwasher and soak everything first in a bowl, then run it under the tap to remove all food residue. Before I had a dishwasher I did the same thing, then washed everything in the bowl. As a result I have a crystal clean dishwasher that has never smelt or broken.

So I'm completely with you on this, and dirty washing up water really gives me the ick.

@Frances0911 what a waste of time (and water). Do you rinse them again when they come out of the dishwasher?

What I came to say!

My mum critisised me for rinsing in clean running water after scrubbing stuff in the basin as. That’s how I’ve always done it and my SIL sided with me.
I think using old water is 🤢

I’m thinking
star chart for dh 😃

Not everyone has a dishwasher although clearly OP has 😆

BBC Sounds Dliced Bread had an episode about washing up and describes the best way https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001xdbx

I know they don't but the op has so what is the post wasting energy on criticising her husband and causing rows over the way washing up is done
use the dishwasher save the rows and creates a happy calm peaceful life 🤷‍♀️

do you realise you are defeating the whole purpose of a dishwasher?
you are wasting time energy and money
for God's sake even the adverts on telly tell you not to rinse