Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

[Washingupfury]

I have name changed for this. Dh and I have a disagreement about washing up water. He feels that you fill the sink, start with cleanest stuff eg glasses work your way through to the dirty stuff and no need to change the water unless the bubbles disappear, even if the water looks dirty.

I fill the sink, wash, rinse under running water, and if the water gets cloudy I change it.

I just caught him washing a cereal bowl in this:

I think it's disgusting. He thinks it is fine 'as it was the last thing to be washed'. We have agreed to abide by the MN poll for future washing up.

So, YABU DH is sensible and timesaving, of course the last few things will be washed in cloudy water.

YANBU DH is filthy and clean water and rinsing are the way to go.

@cardibach yes food is edible, until it becomes 'waste'. Would you jump in a bath of hot soapy water after falling into a bath of baked beans and trie and clean yourself. You are being facetious. You got the drift. Bore off

Lots of single people with only a couple of things to wash do it in running water, but then get criticised for water waste.
One way is like a shower, the other like a bath. Both work.

I'm a mumsnetter sinner& have the tap running the whole time. I think washing up on a bowl of dirty water is grim personally

🙄Yeah, there’s only one way of doing things and anything else is ‘gross’. Grow up!

There's a bbc podcast with a dishwashing scientist(!). Mainly focusing on dishwashers but includes hand washing. https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001xdbx

I follow your dh’s method if washing by hand (however.. I recently bought my first ever dishwasher and it has honestly been life changing!) BUT I always give each item a rinse under the hot tap after.

Unless it has chunks of food in it or is mega dirty slightly cloudy water is ok IMO. Just imagine the water bill you’d get if you had a water meter and were washing up your way

YANBU. I have a dishwasher but when I’m washing dishes I just run clean hot water over them to wash and then rinse. Wouldn’t want to wash anything in dirty water so if I didn’t have a dishwasher and had lots to wash up I’d be doing it your way.

@Gwenhwyfar surely that only works if you are washing a few items. That’s why a dishwasher is more efficient as it showers everything at the same time. But if you are washing every individual item under a running tap you will use more water than in a washing up bowl.

I think a dishwasher is essential these days.We are more aware of germs now although survived other peoples messy ways of washing up! My parents always washed dishes in a bowl of sudsy water but then rinsed it all under a running tap. Good idea !

You are probably right, some people do waste water. It's people saying running water or rinsing is automatically more wasteful. I'm sure I've read that some others on this thread use a soapy sponge directly on dishes and then 'shower' them rather than run a bath.

They really really aren't

Wow, I want to see this video. Have you got a link?

Yes, I would. The quantity of water in a bath v the amount of bean juice means I’d be clean. And no need for stupid rudeness, thanks.

After the dishwasher? I can’t even…

No. There’s a nasty way of washing up and a cleaner way. That, is not the cleaner way. Pure and simple. You keep washing up with nasty disgusting chunky water. Good luck to you. I’m alright doing it properly thanks 👍🏻

I think for the sake of your marriage - buy a dishwasher :)

I wash up the same way as Kalevala and so does everyone else in my family and all of my friends/their parents growing up. It might be cultural because I’m not from the UK but it’s definitely not some rare fine art.

@AJLCroft what do you think the purpose of a bath is?

Do you remember photos of winning teams celebrating in the communal bath?

I’m 100% with you OP. The way your husband does it is gross. I’m horrified that so many people on here think it’s fine!

£46 a month for a family of five. So not too bad actually. 😂

I love this!
Do you have an inspection team that inspect whether or not people rinse their dishes? I guess you do otherwise you'd not be able to say "most people" don't.

Happy for you do do whatever pleases you. You asked what harm ingesting soap could do and I replied. Personally I'm not into ingesting chemicals but wouldn't stop anyone who wanted to.

As for "people have done this for years"... a lot of things were done for years, it doesn't make it good.

@OhmygodDont that’s more than the average bill

We have a massive garden, two greenhouses, orchard and a 14ft pool. I don’t find it that unreasonable.