Rude or polite

[Dullardmullard]

I told him no

context is
a man approach me at the bus stop and said excuse me and I said no right away. He then came back and said you could of said I’m not interested.

no meant I wasn’t interested
no meant no

I stand by my no, but some friends/colleagues said I was rude and I don’t think I was.

ive said not interested in the past and got abused verbally.

I normally have my headphones in but I forgot them this morning

Of course you were rude. how could you not think you were rude?

Its not illegal to be rude, mind you.

If you are asking strangers on the Internet to judge an exchange they weren't witness to, then yes. You were very rude.

No.

Bloody hell op. Who shit on your cornflakes this morning,

Or not interested in hearing his heart breaking story about why he needs exactly 27p to travel somewhere unrealistically far away.

Either way it's a fair reaction

Yes but you said no BEFORE you knew what he wanted. And it is this that makes you rude. Surely you understand this?

Your all being dense on purpose

I did tell you in my first post he came back
he was offended I wasn’t interested.
colleagues are still saying I was rude but I’ve told men I’m not interested and they’ve become abusive so it’s no

Are you quite ok?

@Dullardmullard yes I read your full post and the full thread. Your colleagues think you were rude and so do the majority here, which probably tells you something.

Nobody's being dense except you, OP. Which is probably why you misread the situation in the first place.

Ok, for the sake of argument we’ll pretend you’re female as you say. I would seek therapy for the degree to which you hate women. I love that the two genders in your every post are “female” and “poor bloke” 😂

OP’s ineloquent, rude, she’s got an obvious agenda, any woman who can tell a man is hitting on her is arrogant and ridiculous, special women don’t wait at bus stops (?), clearly not bright, and I’m batshit crazy.

Still waiting to hear a valid reason someone would say “excuse me?” and wait for a response before continuing that OP would have any interest in engaging with, and therefore warrant her saying anything other than no.

OP, this thread has taken a weird turn. I would continue not engaging with total strangers you don’t want to engage with, you’re not being rude.

OP your posts are not clear. Reading between the lines, he was attracted to you so approached you (or that's what you think), but that might not be the case - that may not have been his intention and that might not actually be what you mean. I'm saying this clearly to get through to you. Posters aren't being dense.

Being snippy probably won't help the clarity of your posts.

Surely "everyone being dense" says more about your post than them 🙄 Your posts are very hard to make sense of.

Are you quite alright? You seem very angry for a Thursday lunchtime. I suggest a nice walk in the fresh air.

But you didn't know what he wanted when you initially said no. If what you have written is what happened, then you were rude. I mean you did ask the Internet.

No one is being dense. Your OP is practically impossible to understand , it's so badly written, it doesn't make sense.

*could have not could of btw. HTH

If shutting down a conversation with a stranger you don’t want to talk to is rude, then so be it. Who cares what a random man wants to say to you?

Were you rude or not? Considering the way you are being on here my money is on that you were rude

It's not about getting a grip it. Sometimes it's just an instant reaction rather then an intention to be rude. I'm not saying that anyone should go screaming the word no if a man approaches but its not hard to work out why some ppl react negatively when a stranger speaks to them.

Hahaha is that what you’ve got my spelling

Yeh you were rude to him and now rude to posters because you’re not hearing what you want to hear. Yes you said he came back and said you could of told him you wasn’t interested but you didn’t know that’s all he wanted after just hearing excuse me, so yes it’s rude to shut someone down like that. What happens if you do that but next time they say they were only going to ask the time?

I see the spelling police are out in force today

my spelling has fuck all to do with this and others understood me perfectly.

I am filling the phrase under ones I am going to steal and reuse at every opportunity.
🤣

But you didn't know what he wanted, when he first said "Excuse me"

Unless you're telepathic

If eg he was only asking if this bus stop was for buses heading into or out of town centre, would you have declined to answer him?

So I was to wait for him to say what he wanted, something like the time as he wasn’t as he confirmed that two minutes later as folks here can’t read what I put in my first post.

as usual you’ve read the first two lines.

I’m of to lunch with one of my colleagues now

so I was rude by them and Mumsnet go figure

I won’t be forgetting my headphones again.