Rude or polite

[Dullardmullard]

I told him no

context is
a man approach me at the bus stop and said excuse me and I said no right away. He then came back and said you could of said I’m not interested.

no meant I wasn’t interested
no meant no

I stand by my no, but some friends/colleagues said I was rude and I don’t think I was.

ive said not interested in the past and got abused verbally.

I normally have my headphones in but I forgot them this morning

Rude. You didn't know what he was going to say.

Was he going to hit on you or give you a "I just need 30p to get to a hospital where my daughter has been having a baby for the last 2 weeks"

Wow

What part he said you could said I'm not interested didn’t you understand in my first post

Not necessarily right at all. In the absence of knowing what he wanted, which none of us do, not least because the OP is spinning the story with an obvious agenda, there's no way to ascertain whether he fancied her or not.

Why did you tell your friends and colleagues?

Indeed. The batshit crazy is strong in this one.

Bloody hell 😂

And how did you bring this conversation up with your colleagues, out of interest? Because I can guarantee they think you're a bit of an arrogant plank now.

Christ on a bike read my first post he came back.

Maybe you could have written it a bit more eloquently if you want people to "understand"?

Why wouldn’t I

You preempted what he said, you turned out to be correct.

But I think: “No” is not polite whereas his suggestion of “No thank you, I’m not interested” is polite.

You don’t owe him any explanation, but saying no thank you is just better manners. Unless his approach to you was rude and/or aggressive but there’s nothing in the original post to suggest this.

I have read all your posts and you still haven't told us what he wanted.

Because she doesn't know. She had no clue. She just assumed.

Yes you were rude and arrogant not to give him the chance and listen to what he had to say.

Also, it's 'could have' not 'could of'...

Definitely rude, to him and all of us on here trying to understand and help you !
What an attitude !

You were rude to the man, and you’re being rude to this poster. Evidence so far suggests that you are quite a rude person.

One day, you may have need to approach a stranger, and when that happens, you will see how rude you have been.

You told your friends and colleagues because it seems like you were boasting. You didn't even know what the guy wanted. You can't bring up what you've mentioned in conversation without sounding arrogant. And I mean it sounds mean that you were rude to the guy then went and told all your friends and colleagues about it. Now you're posting it on Mumsnet because seemingly someone has called you out on it.

The guy said 'you could of (sic) said you weren't interested'. The majority of people familiar with these type of interactions take 'not interested' to mean 'not interested in me'. I mean, he could have meant 'not interested in hearing me telling you your skirts stuck in your knickers...' But its a long shot, especially given it wasn't, so I think its probably reasonable to assume he meant it in the more widely recognised sense.

Because “a man said excuse me and I said no” isn’t all that conversation worthy?

Yes, you're right, generally, but since this is clearly a person who has a "and then he turned round and said" way of relating a story, I'm not going to assume that in this case.

This. So so arrogant. Can you imagine the reverse post.

"I was lost so approached a lady at the bus stop to ask for directions but she said no and didn't even let me speak. Aibu to think this was rude?"

I know. It's like a Vicky Pollard sketch, isn't it?