My DP & I have been together 6 years and are tying the knot this summer. We are having my DSD (11) for an extra 2 week period around the wedding which is lovely as we want her to be involved and she's very excited, we are going dress shopping soon actually, hair & make up trials together. Everything has been lovely, easy planning & stress free. We are having a very low key wedding with around 15 immediate family & friends.
We booked a honeymoon just the two of us for a the day after we drop DSD home to her mums. We go away for 10 days and it won't interfere with contact time with DSD, other than DP's mum picking her up from school the day we land just in case our flight is delayed. We are going to the US. We did choose to splurge on this honeymoon, as we preferred to do this rather than spend big bucks on the wedding. It has meant we haven't been able to afford our usual 7 day all inclusive yearly holiday with DSD, but we are still taking her away this year but to somewhere in the UK (still a week & will still be lots of fun).
Anyways, recently when I've been talking to various people the first question I get asked is 'are the 3 of you going on honeymoon then' or 'aww poor DSD' or 'that's a shame for her' or similar things along the same line. This has taken me a aback as I didn't think it was commonplace for couples to bring their kids on honeymoon? but now I'm questioning everything! As much as I love DSD and get on great with her, I'd quite like some down time and 1 on 1 time with my partner after we get married. He was in agreement and when I bought it up with him he even said to me 'why would we bring DSD'....
I'd like to just add so that I don't sound like a horrid SM, that we include DSD with our lives as much as we can, she has an amazing room at ours, she knows all my family, she's a part of my family as much as my DP's now to be honest. We have always taken her on holiday every year (all abroad) and we have her regularly. In 6 years there really hasn't been any issues at all whatsoever...so I'm not sure why this has got me questioning so much and why part of me feels bad.
What are other's peoples thoughts on this please?
YABU - You should take DSD on honeymoon yes.
YANBU - Fine to go without
AIBU?
To not be taking step daughter on honeymoon with us?
poppy33xx · 17/04/2024 15:48
Am I being unreasonable?
3437 votes. Final results.
POLLDoseofreality · 17/04/2024 15:56
I put you are being unreasonable but really it’s her Dad who is, splashing all that cash on a trip to America and she gets a trip in the UK.
She will resent that, even if she doesn’t outwardly show it.
JimBeamCoke · 17/04/2024 15:55
YANBU - where are you going though as I suspect this might be the reason?
For example: Disneyworld - people assume it is only for kids and your step-daughter would be missing out.
Doseofreality · 17/04/2024 15:56
I put you are being unreasonable but really it’s her Dad who is, splashing all that cash on a trip to America and she gets a trip in the UK.
She will resent that, even if she doesn’t outwardly show it.
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