AIBU for paying child caused damage out of wedding gift money?

[Toffifee1]

Let me start by saying i will absolutely always offer or even insist to pay for damage that my child (or I, I‘m clumsy) caused. But this one i thought was unnecessary.

My DC accidentally broke a plate - a regular, plain, rented plate, nothing fancy, no family heirloom - at a wedding. I apologised and cleaned it up. I did not offer to replace it because it was just a plate at a wedding venue, i thought those damages were kind of included.

Additional info: I know the groom was trying to safe every penny in advance of the wedding while the bride wanted everything extravagant and chic and the pair asked for money as gifts. The wedding was at an expensive instagram-worthy location(castle) but they saved money on everything regarding the guests like low budget food(not even enough) and few drinks.

The groom asked me to replace the plate in front of all the other guests. I was honestly a bit taken aback as i still had the envelope with enough money to more than cover my meal in my purse.
So i reached into my purse, took the envelope, took one of the two 100£ notes out and handed it to him saying „This should cover it, you can give me the change later.“

So basically everyone including the groom realised that i just reduced his gift money. Was i being unreasonable?

'big country' 😆😆😆😆

It's really not. I've literally gone from one side to the other in an hour.

Anyway, I think everyone has got the message that we have £100 notes here. It has been posted many times. Hence the 'cancel the cheque' comment.

OP - you have style. Well done.

I thought the exact same when I read the post! Bloody brilliant ☺️

Well done to you. Cheapskate and to say that to you in front of other guests was so ill-mannered. The venue would undoubtedly have expected a broken plate or two.

You are not being unreasonable .
this is not new to me though .
i come from a country where we don't ask to pay for things damaged by mistake no matter how much they cost .
I was shocked at first when people do this but people are so tight fisted here and it's horrifying when they do it even to the cheapest items which might be dare to them
lifes too short and anybody can make mistakes .

Wow! You had to take annual leave to attend, your baby (presumably) didn’t eat anything, and your small child would only eat a child’s portion? You WAS robbed, as they say!) Yes, you might have had a good time in a castle, but I don’t think you got value for money. Your £200 would have more than adequately covered the food that you ate (not that there was much of the main course - aunts having already provided the desserts) and your £200 gift would have already provided a contribution to the wedding. In fact, the invited guests probably paid a major contribution to the “posh” wedding they had, and probably couldn’t afford.

He was totally wrong, and is now trying to backtrack. Well done to his mother who highlighted his misjudged error! I suspect too, that it was a glass. BUT when I ordered wine glasses for my mum’s birthday, in her sheltered accommodation lounge (from a large supermarket - around 100 glasses at the very most), I was aware that they had to be returned intact, so was prepared to pay for the “one” missing class. They let me off (although I was prepared to pay for a very basic wine glass if they insisted).

PS I DID order the wine boxes, nibbles (and cake) from them - so perhaps that was a contributory factor!! An outside caterer did the buffet, so the disposable plates were included in the price. No way, would a catering company charge for the breakage of one plate/glass!

It sounds like he was a bit pressurised into having such an elaborate wedding that they really couldn’t afford? Well done on your stance! DO NOT feel sorry for him. I would probably just give the couple the other £100, though - just me.

Omg!! What?

Bravo! Excellent move… this is normally the response you think of after the event in bed whilst angry 🤣

I'd have just offered to replace anything my DC broke.

You're a legend. Well done 👏

Yes, I know. There’s absolutely nothing in my
post to suggest otherwise. I was observing the number of people who were querying it in ignorance. ‘Cancel the cheque’ is a reference to an old MN thread where posters kept posting the same advice over and over again without reading the thread.

Northern Ireland has £100 notes too. Not everything happens in Britain! 🙄

Wow! There's so much wrong with your post, but your last sentence is actually racist.
Travellers are "..... idiots. Who wave around wads of cash, when people are getting drunk and stupid" Awful!

Just noticed your UN..... your post is not surprising now

Can you imagine how long that marriage lasts?

How rude of him. Unbelievable

Fair comment!

I wouldn't give the rest of the money.

you can get them in England too from RBS🤣😂

Good job it wasn't a Greek wedding 😁

I find your behaviour incredibly rude and I’d have been side eying you with embarrassment for you. The kid broke it, you should have offered to pay

I’d be embarrassed if someone accidentally broke a catering plate and offered to pay for it - how mortifying for everyone.

When I worked in hotels and events management loads of plates and glasses got broken at weddings. We didn't count them, they just got tipped into the glass bin and tossed away. They were CFs asking you to replace it, ffs

This is the kind of thing you wish you had done in hindsight, but you did it in real time. So impressive!