Thoughout our marriage my ex always managed to get out of doing the laundry by always not noticing a white item or a hand wash only etc etc.
I ended up doing it all and by the end of our marriage he was just dropping clothes on the floor and refusing to help put them away. So I find laundry quite triggering.
Now he manages to carefully separates his bike gear from normal washing etc but repeatedly puts the kids whites in with a colour wash and every single time is astonished when the colours run.
I finally showed annoyance this week at a brand new white t-shirt being ruined because it was in a colour and he yelled this is why he left me..
At what point do you make a mistake and realise you have to change what you're doing? Or am I being too hard on him?
AIBU?
To just not accept "oops" any more?
PicaK · 16/04/2024 21:54
Am I being unreasonable?
895 votes. Final results.
POLLMylovelygreendress · 16/04/2024 22:26
I don’t understand what you mean by laundry being triggering.
JeezJeezLouise · 16/04/2024 22:38
Get the kids to complain to him that he's ruining their school uniform. Or if it's not uniform, don't send them in anything white.
Yes it would drive me mad, but you have different standards and you can't make him do anything different.
Maddy70 · 16/04/2024 22:08
Hes washing the kids clothes. He doesnt separate them. At least they are. In clean clothes. Hes right he doesn't need to listen to you any more. Either have separate clothes for his and your house or just send them in darker clothes
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airforsharon · 16/04/2024 21:58
I think this is what i've seen refered to as weaponised incompetence on MN. Esssentially 'bloke couldn't care less so deliberately cocks things up, regardless of the impact on others'.
I think you're not being hard enough, tbh. He's costing YOU time and money.
Copperoliverbear · 16/04/2024 22:45
I'd tell him don't wash their clothes,send all their dirty clothes home in one bag and I will wash them myself.
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