Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

I don't actually agree with you that tall people have advantages in life. And who on earth chooses a partner based on the height of the hypothetical children they might hypothetically produce?
Personally I choose to be with someone because I love them.

I've had boyfriends shorter than me and also much taller. If I fancy someone, height has nothing to do with it. It's normally down to intellect and sense of humour and other factors but height is definitely not a criteria. My current boyfriend is the same height and I fancy the pants off him.

Would put me right off, but that's just me.

I’m 5 ft and wouldn’t want a tall man.

I wouldn't date a man smaller than me, that's not unusual. I am tall and my husband is two inches taller and I am happy with that.

Bad example really as Tom Cruise married two absolutely stunning women who could have their pick of men and both were taller than him. As is Nicole Kidman taller than Keith Urban.

I'm pretty tall and even I wouldn't care if a man wasn't 6ft.

A lot of taller men seem to like short women. I think that's as much a thing as women liking taller men. Anecdotally there are a lot of short women on this thread who say they don't care about height but are married to men over 6ft!

I’m only 5ft3 so most men are taller than me. I did meet up with a man (for a date) once and when he turned up he was about 5ft1, I didn’t think it would bother me but then I didn’t think I would ever meet a man shorter than me, it gave me the ick 😬. I also dated a man that was 6ft5” and when I walked holding his hand I strangely felt like a small child. I would probably prefer to date someone under 6ft though I can’t afford to be fussy 🤣, personality is way more important to me.

I’m 5 ft 2 and DH 5 ft 7. DS is 5ft 5. He’s talented at sport, fit, handsome and lovely but his height has definitely been an issue with girls. If he looked exactly the same but was 6ft it would be a different story. I really feel for him.

Studies show that 45% of women in online dating wanted a man over 6'. 25% had a preference of over 5'8" and only 2% wanted a man shorter than that.

I'm 5'3. My partner is 5'11 but, tbh, he's a bit too tall for me really.

The last man I dated was the same height as me and the one before that was about 5'4

I like a short man!

5'3 - 5'6 is my preferred height range in a man. Upper limit 5'9.

It's unfortunate my partner is as tall.as he is! 😅

I'm 5"4 but get told I look taller (not sure how that works!). I do prefer taller men over 5"9 at least but my sister prefers short men & is married with her husband only being 2 ins taller.

I did try to date a guy the same height as me but I just wasn't attracted him as much as I should be despite him being a lovely person. I think I'm just naturally attracted to taller men.

I dated someone quite short…taller than me as I’m tiny but still short. His last girlfriend had been taller than him and he’d obviously been used to holding her hand the ‘wrong’ way round. So when he held my hand it was like holding the hand of a small child which made me feel really uncomfortable.

I think you must be my mate! I’m a 6ft tall woman and for years dated only guys who were my height and taller. After a couple of less than ideal but tall boyfriends, I prioritized looking for someone kind who makes me laugh instead. I am now married to a 5ft 9 bloke.

I'm not sure why OP is getting a hard time, this IS a thing and it is 100% down to online dating IMO.

SO many women have come on here to say they prefer taller men, so we know it IS a thing that a lot of women's preference is someone taller, but years ago you would go out and meet someone and decide whether you like them based on who they are, and how attractive you find the whole package. Now, people pre-decide whether they find someone attractive based on a criteria that they have made up in their mind of what the 'perfect' partner looks like to them and they won't even contemplate someone who doesn't fit their criteria, they don't need to, as there's already so much choice! It's all bullshit really as the perfect partner rarely exists, but while you've knee deep in online dating there is always at least 2 or 3 people waiting in the wings if you decide the current one isn't quite up to your 'standards', so you can keep looking, men are just as bad as women at having criteria on OLD, I just think 'tall' is an extremely common one for women.

I met my DH on online dating but the whole thing is completely toxic IMO and puts way too much emphasis on superficial bullshit, which ultimately has no real bearing on a successful relationship, it only covers the initial attraction element.

@purdypuma it’s because you have a smaller head in relation to your body🙂. I watch useful YouTube videos!

I won't date a guy shorter than me.

But I'm five foot "tall." So, it would be quite the feat to be shorter than me.

This is such a chronically online thing. Most women, not all-because there's always room for exceptions-aren't going to turn down a guy who ticks every box because he's not over 6ft tall.

It's a lie men who are unsuccessful with women tell themselves so it makes out that women are shallow and oh so unfair to them and they're being rejected because of something they can't control.

When the reality is likely that they don't make for attractive partners- in terms of personality, etc, but it's far easier for these types of men to blame something outside of their control i.e., their height and women's alleged unrealistic and unreasonable expectations-than it is to look at themselves and look at themselves hard-and be honest.

In the real world, if a guy ticks every box, bar height, many women will happily date him. There will always be exceptions to the rule-but if men are going around online, whining that no woman will date him because of his height-that, for me, is code for the fact that this guy has a ton of red flags waving in women's faces. That's it.

That's interesting.
I'm 50 and I've never dated anyone under 6'1". I'm an average height for a woman. I was very attractive when younger and had a good job and could choose.
When husband dating (so over 27) - my non-negotiables were over 6", good job, didn't have a season ticket for a football team, non fussy eater and wanted children. I'd already been engaged by that point.

If someone was under 6' and fitted the bill I would have possibly renegaded on that, but not the others. DH though is tall and we have been married 20 years.

I think that you should be fussy when chosing a partner, but not too fussy. Similar aims in life and likes/dislikes are very important.

Each person needs to get a similar amount out of the relationship and that can also include a attractive (to you) partner.

Oh aye, and by 'women would benefit' do you mean 'might have sex with me' by any chance?

Most women are attracted to taller men for a reason, they might not be thinking about it consciously. Most women are attracted to men taller than them, and taller men are generally considered more attractive, which would you rather your son be?

No point trying to fight reality.

But (and it's a really big BUT) I'm willing to bet it isn't just your height that is stopping you from pulling.

Because there are always exceptions, one person's trash is another's treasure and all that. Many people who aren't conventionally attractive manage find love and sex easily. Overweight, short, ugly...all proven not a barrier to a relationship given you have actually cultivated a vaguely likeable personality (hint: if you are blaming women's sexual preferences for you not getting any, you are nowhere near having a likeable personality. I'd suggest counselling and move on from there).

Well there is a very cliche statement that women often use I want "tall, dark and handsome" so I think there is some truth to it, especially on dating apps. In real life, though, I don't think it pans out that way really.

There was also was a man on here not long ago who posted a thread about his height. I think he was 5ft 7 and worried that women would be turned off by it, due to wanting men 6ft.

I choose people for their brains and personalities not looks.

My husband is considered short probably around 5ft6. I'm 5ft3 and not phased by height.

My mother however, has took the piss out of it for me ever since we got together 8 years ago. She actually turned down a pretty decent man because he was short

We like what we like though at the end of the day!

However, as men have such high standards I think it's the one thing women have an advantage on!

Haha. In the north west you'd be lucky to get one over 5 foot 6.
6 foot is unusual.
Most women prefer someone the same height as them or taller - not a giant.

6ft is not unusual in the North West, or certainly isnt in my town. All of my friends partners are 6ft plus, including my own at 6ft 1 who is the "shortest " haha