Dh - his annoying habit .

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He leaves his chair out most of the time after a meal .
… drive s me mad .
I have asked and asked that he put it back - remind him
most days- or many days -sometimes call to him upstairs to come and put it under.
it infuriates me beyond measure !
it feels inconsiderate to me .

Its silly but it really stresses me out now - i have developed a learnt reaction and i get angry.

does it really matter?!!

dh says he tries but forgets daily.
he is semi retired so this can happen 3 times a day at meal times ultimately.

he has suggested that i “ work on my reaction” ( it is ott)
and
that he does not use the table - which will affect out life !!

my thought is you are a grown man and you can put a chair under a table !!!

he also moves the coffee table daily and does not put that back either. Every day or many days i move it back.that bothers me less.

He wouldn’t even notice if she wasn’t able to put the chair back under.

Its a non issue

Push it back yourself - 2 seconds out of your live verses hours of stress and anger

If this is the worst thing you have to complain about, count yourself lucky. Leave the poor man alone and push the chair in if it bothers you that much.

Irritating things my husband does: leaves his socks on the floor after taking them off; uses cotton buds on his ears then leaves them lying around; doesn't put his tools away after fixing something. Things I do that irritate him: cancel subscriptions to streaming channels if we're not watching anything atm; insist we get back home from things at a certain time because I told our 15-year-old ds that's when we'd get back; make him get to train stations at least 20 minutes before we're due to travel. I'd just put the chair in op. Nobody's perfect.

My OH leaves the chair out and it irritates the heck out of me. 'His' chosen place at the table means it awkward to for everyone else else to go around.

One of the DC cannot abide the noise of cutlery clattering on crockery. So we all make an effort not to do that that one thing.

My OH hates hair in the shower. So I bought a brush to use with conditioner. I can play the joker card about the chair.

I think I hate the OH leaving the chair out is selfish. It's like his need for space trumps everyone else's. It's almost like man spreading to leave the chair in other people's way. In any case, I think it's rude to to get up from the table and not move the chair under the table.

Cryptofascist - pull it out further so it annoys him and gets the point.

If that's all he does that really bothers you I'd take a chill pill, one day you might miss seeing his chair left pulled out

Oh good grief, I'm quite sure the OP won't miss his annoying habits when he goes

Mine pulls the bathroom stool to the middle of the floor every day to dry his feet. It used to irritate me but now I just put it back. In the grand scheme of things he does a lot of good things too. Don't sweat the small stuff.

DP and I often travel separately to the same place because he can't deal with my two modes of punctuality being either a) chaotic faffing and being 20 minutes late, or b) in a bid to avoid the above leaving myself such a margin for error that I arrive 20 minutes early. He says it's less stressful to just get on his bike and arrive on time.

I'd let it go. It's less effort to just put it back under the table myself than shouting up the stairs. Everyone has annoying little habits - it's all about give and take.

You have a bathroom stool?

(misses the point of thread)

yeah, my husband doesnt seem to attempt to make the bed anywhere near my standard if he gets up after me (schedule varies), he seems to throw the pillows and cushions roughly where they are meant to go on the bed and doesn't bother straightening the duvet, and I've given up trying how to make it look nice and tidy, instead when i get home from work i re-make the bed to my satisfaction, coz i'm such a tidy freak 😂 I once took a photo of how he made the bed, then another one after i tidied it up and sent both to him to see if he could see the difference - he claimed not to! 😂 He also leaves his electric toothbrush on the sink without the plastic head cover i gave him every time he uses it, so i routinely put cover on and put brush in the cup holder where we are supposed to keep them. He'll never change, but then he has his uses other ways so i just let it go 😀

It doesn't matter

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At the moment I’m living in the “pick your battles” mindset. So many things annoy me at home, both committed by DH and DC,!but if I argued over them all I’d be a very miserable person so I’m picking my battles every day