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Dp walked off from me - am I in the wrong?

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Haliloa · 14/04/2024 16:17

So dp wanted us to go for a Sunday dinner this afternoon. We were in the shopping centre walking to find a restaurant to eat at when he stopped and told me to take a photo of him and our dear children that he could post to his social media.

I took the photos and as we walked off he then says ‘did you want one?’ Asking if I wanted a photo with our children. Wherever we go he always wants photos with the dc and will post them to his social media but will never include me, it’s like I don’t exist. So when he asked if I wanted one as we walked off it slightly triggered me as I feel a normal family would’ve just taken a family selfie with everyone included, just like I would’ve included him if I was taking a photo with the kids on a day out. It’s like he only remembered to ask me as we started walking off.

I simply replied no. I actually didn’t want one it wasn’t a big issue. But then he asked me again and I snapped and said ‘no I don’t and if you have to ask then it’s a real cuntish thing to do to leave me out’. I know I shouldn’t have snapped but this is the same scenario all the time, I’m always left out he just wants to show off him and the children like I am not there all the time.

anyway this bothered him because he completely walked off from me. I then caught up with him and he said he’s going home. I told him to grow up (may be hypocritical) and be mature as our children need to eat. So he said he wants to take them to eat without me and told me to go home. I told him ‘if that’s what you want’ and he said yeah that’s what he wants and he walked off and has gone to eat without me.

am I in the wrong? I know I shouldn’t have snapped, that’s what’s bothered him the fact I said ‘cuntish’ and we were in public (although no one noticed). But equally I’m tired of always being left out.

am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 15/04/2024 14:57

Bellsandthistle · 15/04/2024 04:08

I wish people would read the thread. This man is abusive and you’re telling OP she’s appalling and undeserving of sympathy…

i suspect people have read the thread.

they may just have a different view to the OP and you

it happens

lightmuller · 15/04/2024 15:07

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PenguinLord · 15/04/2024 16:14

lovepotionnumbernine · 15/04/2024 11:47

I'm sorry but YABU. My ex regularly called me a cunt. It's a horrible insult. It was ten times worse when he did it in public, you might not think anyone heard but they probably did. And all over a photo.

In this case the husband deserved it as he was just that.

Bellsandthistle · 15/04/2024 17:08

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 15/04/2024 14:57

i suspect people have read the thread.

they may just have a different view to the OP and you

it happens

If they have read all of OPs posts and think he isn’t abusive then they need immediate help.

lovepotionnumbernine · 15/04/2024 17:43

@PenguinLord I'm sorry but nobody deserves that. Especially not for the op reasons. He didn't include her in a photo that he didn't know she wanted to be in and instead of saying hang on I'll get in as well she threw a moody and called him a cunt in public and in front of her children.

PenguinLord · 15/04/2024 17:50

@lovepotionnumbernine have you read all OPs posts in here? And do you think him telling her to go home as he was having a lunch with kids was OK? Interesting.

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