To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

This

Abusive twats are even more abusive when challenged

But why did you get up and do it?

You can say no!

I’m assuming by the fact you just got up and did it that this is not the first time something like this has happened.

Please don’t encourage / enable this kind of behaviour from your H. Sorry if that’s unfair but it really is not okay for him to do this and it’s absolutely reasonable for you to say no, you need to do it. If you keep pandering to him, he will keep doing this.

Ok, I’m going to be generous here. Maybe he’s one of those people who have a phobia of sick.
well in that case he could have put a bucket or something over it and left it till morning. Ideally he’d have dropped a towel over first to help absorb.

And then at least he’d have decency to apologise for waking you, prostrate himself in gratitude etc etc.

*But why did you get up and do it?

You can say no!*

Because she's become so inured to abuse?

Because to do otherwise would to invite further abuse?

Why did you accept this .

He considers you to be a domestic appliance.

Is that a situation you are happy with? If not, you need to start considering your options. These include talking to him, suggesting counselling, and making an exit plan. Which of those is right for you, only you know.

Pig. My DH is currently ruining my day off, complaining about the house. I work six days. I’m sick. I’m done with him!

What Gingernaut says. The sick would still be there…

Your husband is an arsehole. What would have happened if you said no ?

That would be really nice for the dog would t it wtf ?

Why does the dog have to be punished for the lazy arse husband 😯

Less of the animal slurs
Pigs don't behave like abusive pieces of shit

It never ceases to amaze me that some women put up with vile useless men
Your bar must be in the gutter

@tammym07 what would have happened if you had refused to get out of bed at that time?

If he would have got angry, and you're even a bit scared of him, that would be a cause for concern.

If he would harrumph about it then but be ok the following day it's different.

Only you know if this is a pattern of behaviour. Please take any steps necessary to keep you safe.

Again, if the OP could rehome the dog safely, she has more options when she leaves

As the husband/partner is an abusive piece of shit, the dog will suffer at his hands in his efforts to make the OP stay

That's nasty, he treated you like a skivvy.

If it was a case of a really sick pet or child covering themselves and a large area in sick/poo, and the awake partner woke the sleeping partner so that one could clean the carpet/furniture/bedding while the other bathed the pet/child, I think that's ok as it's teaming up to sort the grossness out as quickly as possible.

If he tried that again he'd find that sick in his bed😂

For those asking why I cleaned it, in all honesty, I got up and cleaned it simply because I knew that would be the easiest option for me.

Those who predicted he would spend today sleeping, are also correct.

So what are your plans going forward? Carry on as things are or leaving your "dp"?

@RedHelenB I am in the process of planning and I am already getting help professionally as this is by far the only issue.

I mean it is by far from being the only issue.

You're allowing him to treat you like an absolute mug. Have more respect for yourself.

Waking you up to clean the dog sick I would class as abusive. I don't think you could do much worse than him.

Get strong and stay strong, OP. It sounds like you have taken some important first steps. Those are the hardest.

Keep coming back here if you need support, because you deserve better

Glad to hear you’re getting away from him, OP.