To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

Why are so many women married to pigs like this?

Because they don't show what pigs they are at first, otherwise none of them would have wives or girlfriends.

They start off by being charming and once they have caught a woman, they gradually erode her confidence and feelings of self worth.

It's only when people on the outside catch a glimpse of her life and say that it's wrong, that women start to realise that they're in an abusive relationship.

I can't believe how many posters on this thread don't seem to understand the dynamics when they're so well know. There's also been some unhelpful victim blaming. Only those women who have been in abusive relationships themselves seem to understand that saying no isn't always an option.

OP, I hope that you have RL family or friends to talk to you and that you start thinking about how you can leave this piece of shit.

Exactly this.
Most people don’t understand the dynamics of abuse.
More often that not, the woman can’t “ just leave” and it’s unsafe to say “no”.

The guy obviously has shown what he thinks of you and your worth. Tell him to go find somewhere dog free to live

I would just say no - I'm sleeping, leave me alone.You give in to these things and they'll just keep happening.

What are you OP, a maid? Lazy DP.

What a jerk. You deserve to be treated better.

He’s a pig. I would have shoved the kitchen roll or whatever you used to clean up the sick under his bloody pillow. Next time he falls asleep rattle a wooden spoon in a pan next to his head and see how he likes it. Disrespectful.

He needs to grow up.

Why are you married to this vile creature. Initiate divorce proceedings, but be sure to keep waking him up until he moves out

This! 👆👆👆

Selfish doesn't begin to describe this man. You have to think to the future, is this what you are prepared to put up with going forward, a lazy arse who sits around watching TV and drinking.

Please find a way to leave. Are you scared of him or his reaction? This is not love. It’s contempt. There are organisations who can help if you are worried about leaving. You deserve better x

Well that would be the first and last time for me!

Bye dog!

Ps - every time your husband is a dickhead you don’t have to leave him, just make sure it never happens again.

A bit OTT can’t you talk to him?

I'd be in the room making enough noise to wake him up. Every hour. Vacuum, radio, tv, whatever it took. Until he got his arse up. Then repeat as needed.

Keep the dog. Lose the dope

This shows a complete lack of respect for you. No one deserves to be treated this way. I hope you find your self worth xx

This.

What was he like when the kids were babies? Did you do everything?

I would have refused to get up...

I’m assuming he finds other way to humiliate you too? If I were you I’d be leaving him as soon as possible, and I’d probably leave the dog with him too.

I'd tell him you've decided to keep the dog but lose the arsehole of a husband.

I was gonna say make sure you don’t have kids with this twat but oh dear, too late 😬 maybe think about getting rid of him anyway, I don’t like the way he thinks of you

Just get rid.....of him, not the dog. Absolutely zero respect.