To not want to give up my day off?

[justbecool25]

I suspect I might be BU

I've been with my partner for 7 years and he has a 16 yo DS, we have a good relationship. When he was 13 he first attempted suicide and he's been struggling mentally since with many other attempts. He seemed to be doing well for a while but he's been struggling again recently. CAHMS are involved but can't do much.

His mum told partner she can't cope with him struggling and so he's been living with us full time for around a month. He has told DP he feels abit better as he has his own space (he was sharing a room at his mums) and our house is a lot quieter but a few nights ago he asked DP to stay with him as he was having suicidal thoughts. And since then DP has been staying with him every night and not letting him out of his sight.

He works from home usually but once a month he needs to go into the office, this is Monday. Stepson is off school currently due to his mental health and school are putting more pressure on him about exams which isn't helping him mentally. Professionals agree.

I've got a day off on Monday and had planned to meet with a friend for a coffee then look around shops but DP has now asked me to stay home with stepson to keep an eye on him.

I know I'm probably BU but I don't want to give my day off up. AIBU? I do love and care for stepson, I'm aware this thread may not seem like it.

Read the thread !!! His dad leaves his side every Saturday to go to football. Guess who looks after him ? I’ll give you a clue - not his mum. But guess who’s getting guilt tripped into looking after him yet again because his dad won’t let his boss know what’s going on and he won’t ask his ex to help ?

Read the thread !!! His dad leaves his side every Saturday to go to football
To be fair, maybe you should read the thread too. OP says he goes to watch every home game on Saturdays, which she estimated to be every other Saturday.

It won’t even be every other Saturday though, because the football season isn’t year-round.

If he only goes to every home game that falls on a Saturday, that would probably be around 10-12 per year. If he does Sundays too, there’d be a few more, but it would definitely be less than every other weekend.

This poster was replying to someone guilt tripping the OP, saying only being asked to look after DSS for one day. That’s not the case - she regularly stays with him. The point is that people are talking as though this man is at his sons’ side 24/7 and that’s not the case. He gets his leisure time, but it seems that if OP books one day off she is expected to give it up to look after DSS again because her DP won’t be straight with his boss about his home situation and won’t ask his ex to help out.

In my opinion, it was subjective on whether it was nasty.

Unlike a woman not wanting to give up her day off to help a teenager in a crisis.