He wants me to transfer the money. AIBU to be put off now?

[whatasneezeyone]

Had a date. Went for sushi 🍣

I got a few dishes and he seemed to be counting his coming through. I got some strawberry cheesecake mochi and he said 'that looks nice. I'll try it maybe one time. Spend enough today ahahaa'

Went to tap the card as we agreed to split the bill

I did my half and my card got declined. I said to the waiter, quick as a flash, I'll need to insert my pin because I've probably tapped too many times now

The man I was with on the date said 'let me just get this, please'

And he tapped.

He's now messaging this evening saying 'can you transfer your half? As we did agree to go half. It's Santander xxx yyy lll'

The followed up straight away with a link and saying 'fancy this next week?'

So I have. And haven't replied back to say it's done

AIBU to not be interested now? Just seems a bit petty.

I personally would've just left it if the shoe was on the other foot

This!

No second date imo!

Sounds more promising

He sounds way better!

This...you agreed to split the bill, your payment didn't go through and now he's asking for the half you said you'd pay. He's not being "tight" he's just sticking with the original agreement.

Agree with most of the responses here. It’s really icky to have sent that message. He should at the very least have said after paying “I’ll drop you a message later with my bank details” or something but to have said sent that out of the blue is just embarrassing. This is not momentary awkwardness when the bill was there, he’s had the chance to think about it before sending that

Also... I have a husband with a desk job who hates DIY... given my time again I might be more inclined to go for a tradie, my house would look better
(And yes I know I could do DIY myself but I'm not much good at it either!)

Thank you - he also seems more laid back and has a bit of chat about him in his messages

A shame because Revenue Accountant man had a funny, dry sense of humour. But did give off a strange vibe of being tight in general

Trust your gut.

How many dishes did you order compared to him? You mention ordering more in the OP.

That would be another ick for me. I like a bloke who can out-eat me.

Thank you. My mum says the same about my step dad

She knew he was the one for her when he said he could put her flat pack up if she wanted and stop the leak in the downstairs loo

They've been married 10+ years

Surely it depends on how much you ate?! If the man ate a normal portion and you ate for three, I know what would give me the ick more!

@whatasneezeyone I have said no, I would like to split and he said 'if you like me, pay for the next one '

Stick to what you proposed, which is normal and fine. Why is he objecting? Say no, you're going to split the bill.

Just give him your half.
He was trying to spare your blushes. Just pay him.
It's the 21st century and going halves is normal.

This talk about 'the ick' is bonkers and outdated.

Haha!

Then we wouldn't be compatible and I'd say nice to meet you and goodnight. I like to eat!

Also if you mean a MN normal sized portion we'd be talking 2 lettuce leaves and a crust.

Starting to get weird 1950s housewife vibes now! 😂 Man who goes halves on bill = bad. Man who pays for everything and is handy with a stopcock = good.

It's really not, these small things tell you a lot about people.

Give over.

😂 TWO lettuce leaves?! How gluttonous of you.

They do, though. No one wants to date a miser.

I much prefer the sound of this one.

How much was the bill?!

this....it would put me right off. it would have been different if he had said ill tap now and u can square me up later.

Exactly! So she should cough up.