Today's telling off from DH

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DH and I are not in a good place at the moment. I have really tried but everything I say or do is wrong in his eyes.

We are going away for the weekend with the children for 4 days tomorrow. I had to work today in the office, and he the day off. Today I have been moaned at for:

Staying half an hour late at work to handover to the team some work they need to cover for me

Went into the office rather than asking to wfh as we're taking my car and he wanted to load it up (Thuraday is a day I have to be in the office and I wanted to do my handover in person. We're not leaving until 12pm tomorrow)

Got a text message to say I had stacked the cups in the cupboard wrong (they didn't fall out he just didn't like the way it was done)

He has been off all week while I have been working do naturally a few bits for the holiday have fallen to him although I have done all of the clothes washing, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher and the general day to day house stuff as well as dropping off and picking up youngest DC from nursery.

It feels like because he has to do a few bits he feels like he is fed up and makes me feel like i don't do enough

He is a controlling twat badger!

Totally not judging you and i am sure he has some good qualities! My H gets like this sometimes and I've had to be very assertive with him and basically told him that I will not put up with his attitude. It changes or I go. (Or he can't cope with my assertiveness and he leaves but that's his choice!)

I hope you have a good weekend away despite it all!

Hope you are ok op.

He's a dick head. Ducks in a row and LTB

Honestly, I would go around the house before I left for errands, appointments, etc, and think of things like stacking the dishwasher wrong, not shutting the curtains properly, putting the milk on the wrong side of the fridge, a teaspoon in the sink, etc to provoke these kinds of messages and use them against him.

No you need to tell him to stop this stuff, your working you can't be expected to drop everything to answer his texts. You can stack the cups however you like and you can go to the office if you need too.

Tell him if he keeps knocking your self esteem, your off see how he likes that....

Nailed it

Sorry OP but this sounds similar to what signalled the beginning of the end for my marriage. I couldn't do anything for fear of being ticked off or rebuked for it.

If that was my husband I would have told him to get to fuck so many times already. He sounds like a proper whinger.