Neither parent wants to live with their child fulltime what happens?

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It’s a relatives child.

The DC is 10. Has lived with the RP, their mother alone since they were 2. Seeing NRP Father for 2 nights EOWend and half the school holidays.

NRP agreed to have DC over Easter Holidays fulltime so RP could have some work done on the house.

RP has now said they do not want DC home and want to trial a switch of residency for awhile or wants to do 50/50 arrangement. NRP also does not want DC fulltime and wants to go back to previous arrangement.

Social Services are involved now due to the arguments and DCs school reporting it, but what will happen if neither parent wants to live with their child full time? Is there some sort of foster care where parents can still see DC?

I can't put myself forward to have the child as I live too far from them. Parents live around 7 miles from each other.

Why don't they want to live with their child? Am assuming child is violent or on drugs or something

If there is no relative who can take the child, SS will find a foster carer.

God that poor child.

Why don't either parent want the child

Poor child

The poor child . No one wants them ? That’s one way to mess them up .
i have no solution, I just cannot imagine myself in this situation, I’m sorry .

@KoolKookaburra Mum thinks there should be more contact between the child and father and feels like she does everything for said child while father gets all the fun so she either wants a switch for awhile or 50/50 so it's more fair.

Dad wants to keep the status qo and stick with previous arrangement of Every Other Weekend for 2 nights.

Poor kid...
But can RP say that she doesn't want him??The Easter arrangement was a temporal and informal

Current NRP needs to get a grip and step up.

This is so sad.

Why would they not want their child?

Poor bloody kid.

My guess is that social services will put pressure on for one parent to crack or the other

That poor fucking child though, thats horrific

What does RP stand?

Poor child. For SS to be involved they must have witnessed quite some arguments too

Poor child whose parents should be ashamed of themselves.

My son is just 11 so same age as this child and he’s so loved and wanted - this is heartbreaking

Well that's a sure fire way to fuck your kid up.

Is the child aware? 😢

Mum has seen the DC every day since they moved in with dad, has taken them to and picked them up from childcare and done the school run today (first day back).

Dad is still not doing any of that stuff.

Resident parent

Poor little scrap. I remember years ago hearing the headteacher or whatever they call him at Eton saying that just like other schools they also have some parents who really let their children down. His example was a child whose parents both refused to have him for the holidays, so the lad was driven up and down the motorway by each parent in turn while they argued about where he was to go. I don't imagine that's an experience that ever leaves you.

Fair enough if the RP wants a change...but she is not going to abandon her child or put it in foster care if the NRP refuses, is she? That would be crazy

On the face of it, it seems very sad, but are there underlying issues with the child? My nephew was a nightmare for a while, very very rude to his Mum, to the point she dropped nephew off on his dad's door step one evening when he was about 13 and refused to deal with him any more. BIL thought she was overreacting, until nephew pulled a knife on step mum (BILs second wife).

I am not sure what happens if neither parent wants to be the main carer.

Being the RP is so tough, especially if there is no family or friends that can help out. I understand where the mum is coming from but I don’t think she can make the dad take the child more than he wants to.

is she claiming the correct amount of child maintenance, that can make a NRP reevaluate how much they have their child.

What a horrible situation.

It does definitely highlight the inequality in many parenting situations where the parents are separated though. So many single parents (often mothers) having to either manage alone or with very little support from the other parent....

@MrsPS3 I think mum will crack, I am her relative. She loves her DC more than anything in the world but is under a hell of pressure and feels that dad could step up more given he lives so close and due to where they live still technically within the catchment of the DCs school.