Neither parent wants to live with their child fulltime what happens?

[WhatWillHappenToTheDC]

It’s a relatives child.

The DC is 10. Has lived with the RP, their mother alone since they were 2. Seeing NRP Father for 2 nights EOWend and half the school holidays.

NRP agreed to have DC over Easter Holidays fulltime so RP could have some work done on the house.

RP has now said they do not want DC home and want to trial a switch of residency for awhile or wants to do 50/50 arrangement. NRP also does not want DC fulltime and wants to go back to previous arrangement.

Social Services are involved now due to the arguments and DCs school reporting it, but what will happen if neither parent wants to live with their child full time? Is there some sort of foster care where parents can still see DC?

I can't put myself forward to have the child as I live too far from them. Parents live around 7 miles from each other.

You have misread the poster's comment. Her daydream is about taking a break for a bit, not foster care.

When I was a new mum and had PND I used to plan all the ways that I could take a break. Including driving my car into a wall so I could stay in hospital. These days I'm a single parent to two and no longer have PND and sometimes my mind wanders. I think "maybe I could leave the kids with their dad and travel the world" on my own or something like that. You read something in my post that absolutely wasn't there but I if someone said to me that they had considered if their child could be taken somewhere safe for them to have some respite I would think they must surely need it.

This happened to me. My parents separated and neither wanted me full time. They were, on the surface, caring responsible adults with well paid jobs (law and MOD), and weirdly I never felt unloved, but I ended up going to boarding school miles away in Yorkshire which enabled them not to have to commit so much time to looking after me. One holiday when 14, I took the train home (3hrs) and neither parent was in, I didn't have a key and I had nowhere to go. I ended up staying with a friend for two weeks. Both parents gad gone on holiday (separately) at the same time.

I 100% knew what was going on at the time when I was around 12 and they split up, and although looking back it seems so sad, at the time I, like them, felt it just made sense. As I've grown older, I can see the effect this had had on certain aspects of my life more clearly.

I'm so sorry, @AlbertCamel. That's so incredibly irresponsible of your parents.

No child should ever have to go through what you went through. I'm so sorry.

Wtf am i reading. Poor child.

Your relative has completely lost sight of her child and even if she did "crack" both her and dad have caused irreparable harm to their child by making him feel like a burden and unwanted. It's understandable to want help and support but you cannot make people change if they don't want to. Additionally they will probably just fail the child as they would be up under duress.

@WhatWillHappenToTheDC have there been developments in the last week?