It's just laundry - nothing to be embarrassed about

[Aparecium]

I took the family's clean laundry off the airer, folded it and put it in a basket. I gave the basket to 17yo ds and asked him to sort it and put piles of clean laundry on everyone's beds for them to put away.

When dh does the laundry, he either tells people to claim their kit straight from the airer, or he sorts it as he takes it off the airer, so the dc who distributes it just has to pick up ready-sorted piles.

Apparently ds told dh that he prefers dh's way, as he was embarrassed handling his mum's and his sister's underwear.

YANBU - it's just clean clothes and ds should be grateful he wasn't asked to put on a load as then he would be handling dirty laundry.

YABU - give the bashful teen boy a break.

I agree with this. Sad but true.

I don't like handling all the sweaty dirty laundry but someone has to, so I do.
Your son needs to grow up!

This thread is hilarious and your comment made me laugh out loud. Respect the skid

I fold it straight from the line or airer and put them in piles per person too. I don't think my teenage boys would be too impressed about folding my undies 😂

My 16yo put some washing on for the first time yesterday. He wanted his favourite white T shirt, which he carefully extracted from the rest of the sorted whites in the laundry room and treated it to its own VIP wash cycle! 😀

Glad someone’s got a sense of humour 😁 this thread is insane. I’m not sure which is madder, this one or the one about the awful constant rain with people saying there’s no such thing as bad weather just bad clothes (duh how does that work in a heatwave?)😁

Boys (and girls) need to get over it, it’s just clean cloth. I think I complained once about sorting out my dad and brothers’ pants and socks and was given very short shrift. Teenage boys will be embarrassed about ANYTHING I agree, I had a teenage shop assistant blushing like billyo when I asked him where the maternity section was - maybe because it indicated I’d had sex? I dunno 🤷‍♀️

Those saying that men in future will only need to wash their wives/partners pants, not necessarily - their daughters’ too and perhaps any houseguests who are staying for more than a few days. I was v impressed with a friend’s future husband who instead of leaving in the wash I’d done (while staying with them in between rentals) hung it out including bras and knickers without any fuss whatsoever. Best OP’s son gets over the idea right now that any housework is for other people.

Yup, put the pair of them in charge of all laundry.

Seriously?? My DM worked so I often brought in the laundry and folded it after school. I had no issues with handling either of my parents' undies. What's so dreadful about it?

Oh FFS each person does a full load. It's not wasteful.

If each person does their own washing then they each wait until they have a full load. That's how you do it if each person does their own washing. What's so hard to understand?

Quite well. It's easy and cheap to buy thin fabrics for hot weather, but clothes for cold and wet weather are expensive.

Which B though? The husband with his unreasonable sorting method or the teen embarrassed by female underwear. Or are you suggesting both in one fell swoop?

Fair point 😆

Well surely in a heat wave they're all bad clothes. Silver lining for teen, no embarrassment about handling Mum's underwear.

Only two of us in the house. DS14 puts his own washing on. If I do a mixed load I hang my underwear/ socks on one side of the clothes horse and his on the other so it's already sorted and easy for him to just grab whats his and put it away.

I can see why a teenage boy wouldn't want to handle his mum's underwear - clean or not.

I once picked up a stray pair of my mum’s underwear by accident while retrieving my stuff from the dryer and the memory still makes me uncomfortable so yes, you are being unreasonable. 😂

I give up

Doing their own washing wouldn't work in our house as I have a drying system and there isn't a guarantee there would be space to hang a wash on a given day. We have a lot of gym wear and sports wear alongside schoolwear and I don't have a tumble dryer so have to choose what to wash on a particular day.

I make up a wash from 3 hampers (dh/me and the 2 kids) depending on the colour of the load. When dry it's separated into 3 baskets so clothes can go to each bedroom.

No he hasn't, why is that a shock? I'm sure he would do, I mean he has had to rummage around for a lost tampon in the past but I wouldn't leave period knickers for someone else to handle, why would I?

Honestly that seems utterly bizarre to me. Are you ashamed?

So does mine. Just need to train DH to do the same!

Feel I'm in a parallel universe to most of the posters on this thread. Yes my DH and 4 DSs (aged 20-10) all fold my underwear as part of doing the laundry which has always been a joint household effort and never expected any of them to think twice. Both sets of grandparents kindly fold our laundry if they're visiting (unasked). Surely there's a difference between boundaries, and turning something into a thing that isn't a thing?

I too feel like I'm in a parallel universe to most people on this thread, and I'm now going to say something REALLY shocking.

We have a single washing pile and when there is stuff that needs doing, all of us just put a load on....of dirty, skungy, soiled clothes, including the ones that touch our nether regions.
Yes, my DS washes my pants, and those of his sisters, my DH washes our DDs' undies and DDs wash their father/brother's pants. We will also all take them out of the machine, hang up or tumble dry and then fold into piles afterwards. There's fun when it's sorting out who's is who's out of the 5 of us (all similar sizes), but past that, no drama; they don't even wear rubber gloves (the horror!).

Ashamed of what? Not letting someone else handle my bloody knickers? You're a fucking nut job mate.