It's just laundry - nothing to be embarrassed about

[Aparecium]

I took the family's clean laundry off the airer, folded it and put it in a basket. I gave the basket to 17yo ds and asked him to sort it and put piles of clean laundry on everyone's beds for them to put away.

When dh does the laundry, he either tells people to claim their kit straight from the airer, or he sorts it as he takes it off the airer, so the dc who distributes it just has to pick up ready-sorted piles.

Apparently ds told dh that he prefers dh's way, as he was embarrassed handling his mum's and his sister's underwear.

YANBU - it's just clean clothes and ds should be grateful he wasn't asked to put on a load as then he would be handling dirty laundry.

YABU - give the bashful teen boy a break.

Don't quote me then?

Me neither. Nor my dad's y-fronts and that doesn't make me a misandrist!

Oh dear. Not this again. You just wait until each person has a full load. A person may have one load a week, just as they would if they lived alone, doesn't mean they have loads of clothes.

I’ll definitely make sure to avoid your posts.

Grand.

I find that attitude ridiculous. My sons care not a hoot about loading my knickers and bras into a wash nor sorting them out of the dryer.

These archaic attitudes of being awkward and embarrassed are taught.

Dont understand that all. My boys are 17,18 and put the washing out when i need them to that includes my underwear and they dont bat an eyelid.

And will put my clean underwear on my bed when they take the washing up if im at work.

They dont put dirty washing on, but to be fair they would if they asked them to, including my stuff, what difference does it make?

" I can't imagine most fathers enjoy picking up dirty underwear either. But someone has to do it."

Well, yes, the person whose dirty underwear it is! (small children and certain disabilities excepted).

YABU. I would have hated to touch my dad's boxers as a teen (still wouldn't be thrilled at the idea tbh🤢).

Who taught me (a woman) that I never would have wanted to handle my parent’s underwear? As far as I’m aware I came to that conclusion all by my myself.

I honestly don’t believe we’d be getting some of the replies on here if it had been a teenage girl complaining about her dad’s pants. It would have been ooh yeah I wouldn’t want to handle my dads y fronts as a teenage either. Posts would be all supportive of her distaste for men’s undercrackers.

You're totally confusing 'want' and 'enjoy' with 'shit that has to be done'. There are loads of things I don't want to do, I still have to do them. Should I excuse my husband from emptying the bin with the San pro in it? It's a job that has to be done, so he does it. Not mentally scarred this far thank god.

I wouldn’t want to sort out my mum/ sisters/ brothers underwear so it’s very understandable why a teenage boy doesn’t want to.

Oh jeez. What girls can’t pick up pants and put them somewhere else 😂 Also, the pants were clean.

Well I don’t know about anyone else but I don’t actually want my sons sorting my knickers whatever state they’re in. Call me old fashioned (I don’t mind) but my knickers are private. 😁

My point was I asked the poster who said the son needs to be taught respect if the same went for girls, do they also need to be taught to respect men’s underwear if they complain?

@Moveoverdarlin "massive size 10 knickers" LOL.

I am size 24, they could lose themselves in my tents!

Sorry. Didn't know there was a rule. I'll check with you first next time, shall I?

As I separate my laundry carefully, that would definitely have been the case in my family, which is why I commented

I often wonder about gender roles. Women are expected to handle men’s underwear, iron their shirts, worry about prostates etc.

But it is socially acceptable to men to get all squeamish about periods and bras.

I was made to iron my dads work shirts, and trousers and boxer shorts as a primary school age child. Sort everyone’s underwear into their respective bedrooms. No brothers. But if my parents had had boys would they have been expect to hang our parents underwear out on the line and sort them into underwear drawers. Probably not. And another generation of useless boys would have been spawned!

send you son to the supermarket for tampons😂.

Me too! H had no sisters, but he has managed to 'cope' with the trauma of feminine hygiene products etc. he just gets on with it. He hasn't expired. If we treat it like a taboo, it'll continue to be a taboo. Plus ca change, plus la meme chose .

How does your daughter feel about her brother handling her knickers?

Does the daughter handle the son’s undies?

as long as there is equality in the household I don’t think it matters. It’s just fabric!

My dh is fine with talking to me about my periods and brings me hot water bottles and chocolate. and he's fine with washing my knickers..

I still don't think he'd want to touch his mums/sisters knickers.

Not sure why so many people are equating mothers and sisters with wives and girlfriends.

@KnackeredBack

i like your kids 🤗

I don't get the Big Fat Fuss (especially from the adults on here), it's clean washing, it's just material.

to the poster who declared you just wait until a person has their own load.

No. YOU might do that, but it's not a universal law.

i sort my laundry into different loads, I don't just jam any old thing into one wash.

I'm assuming sister isn't 5, if he has an issue with the underwear. Why don't they just do their own washing?