To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

My courgette plant isn't doing well.

Every day I'm grateful for my stress-free life, I know my luck will change at some point.

Mine aren't doing well either. I just don't think there's been enough sun for them.

Reading part of this thread is so depressing - some people currently going through hell and others filling their time with concerns over under developed home-grown veg.

Maybe there isn't a god.

There are some people who have no serious problems at some points in their life. That's a good thing, not a bad one. If everyone was hanging by their fingernails all the time then there would be no space to help others, work hard and effectively, create art, campaign for change and all the other things we need as a society.

This is not an "only people with really serious problems can post" thread: if it was then the OP wouldn't have posted for a start. It's a broad slice of life, where everyone can post for their own reasons and the ones who temporarily have nothing major to worry about can count their blessings.

I’ve got some fairly big problems as per my post. Doesn’t stop me being annoyed that my cucumber plant is under performing. Doesn’t stop me believing in a god either. I think I’m managing to prove to myself I can shoulder whatever burden comes my way. For now, at least.

One of my friends has terminal cancer and has a maximum of 6 weeks left. Her family really need her and she is dying. It's really tragic.

My parents ageing and my dog has just died. Both unsolvable and inevitable.. but painful none the less.

i suppose im quite fat and a bit ugly. But that doesn’t really bother me enough to actually be a problem

My husband is terminally ill and I'm his carer. He probably has only a few months left. My life has effectively stopped to look after him (I returned to look after him even though I'd left him a year previously as he had no one else). I've recently felt some small lumps in my body but don't have the time to focus on me, so I'm burying my head in the sand and hoping it's nothing. I'm also fat and frumpy, but at 60 I doubt I'll be anything else now.

Please, please get yourself checked out. I’ve recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Because of caring duties I delayed the mammogram which diagnosed it and had I not, the tumour would likely have been smaller and treatment not as radical as is likely now. It may be nothing, but neglecting yourself will just make things worse. I’ve been in your situation so I know how distressing it is, but you need to make time for yourself. Talk to your GP about what you’ve found and ask about some support.

Adhd. All the things I've been neglecting are coming to a head this month and I'm so stressed that every day I'm just more tired and less able to cope. I'm failing my two little kids because I can't get my shit together and I'm failing my parents who are in very bad shape and desperately unhappy. And work is just a battle that I'm losing daily. I'm working every evening and night but I can't catch up and soon everyone will find out. I don't have imposter syndrome. I am an imposter.

And I'm starting to see symptoms of adhd in my beautiful dd and it breaks my heart. This is not what I want for her. She's only 8 but she's already got so many issues. Our home is not a happy home. Dh is in constant pain and very unpleasant and negative. I'm all the time stressed and my stimulants make me feel cold and joyless. Dd is scared of her own shadow and soon I'm sure my happy bubble little toddler will be affected. I've wasted most of my life procrastinating. I can't forgive myself for not getting my shit together for my kids

Money. I have so very little money.
All my savings are gone, and there wasn't much saved in the first place.
All my jewellery has been sold.
All my good clothes have been sold.
I just sold my last pair of nice shoes. (And they weren't even fancy.)

I wake up at night and listen for the sound of the fridge so I know it's not broken.
I'm taking the child to the seaside on Saturday and it's taken me two months to save enough extra for her to go in the little funfair and have ice cream and all of it.
We're fed and warm and she's got nice clothes from Vinted and so on, but I'm so tired.

I've had much worse things happen to me and this isn't insurmountable, it's just really fucking demoralising.

Some of our dogs are getting in in years.

I'd click my fingers and they would be five years younger.

My career has fallen into a bit of a black hole and I'm not sure how. I left a toxic job last year for a fixed term contract role, I had tried for permanent roles and struggled and as my mental health was suffering I thought the fixed term role was the best option. That role ended, as expected and I have since struggled to find the right thing. Took another short term role that was well beneath my skill set and feel like I now have lost all my confidence to get back where I was - and the job market in my field is really bad at the moment so I'm against stiff competition and getting nowhere.

Feels like the last 24 years I've spent working in this profession are all for nothing - I desperately need to get my career mojo back and out of this hole! Meanwhile I'm surviving off savings and DH's income so I am grateful that at least I'm not getting into massive debt or at risk of losing my home.

Life is my biggest problem at the minute , my dsdad died on the 15th of June , it hit me hard because I helped care for him and was there at the end as I have been for the past 7 months when he started to deteriorate. Well just as I was beginning to get my head round not being awake 22 hours a day I woke up on the 20th of June to a text from my exdp to tell me the relationship was over and to collect my stuff . To sum it up life stinks I lost my dsdad my home my partner and my cat all in the space of less than a week .

Oh my Lord and all sympathy. Can your mum go into care for a bit? Is there support available for your partner? Can caring/nursing be organised in advance? Sounds very hard. I am so sorry.