To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Cancer
then Chronic pain and increasing disability.
If this happens to you it will make you see what you considered were big problems were nothing in comparison.
I have a short fuse for people whining about minimal issues these days.

I need to find a job and I have no idea what I want to do.

Finishing uni this summer (teacher training) but I'm not really sure I want to be a teacher (I've worked in schools for 7years as support staff, I think I've had enough and want a change), and the long resignation dates scare me, like it's a massive commitment if I hate the school. I haven't worked a full time office job since dd was 2 (and she's now 20 but I have another 3 younger dc), so going back to a 9-5 and working all school holidays, having to put youngest dc into holiday clubs etc, also worries me. I just don't know what to do, or what I want to do. And I really need to decided asap.

This is so sad and scary - strength and hugs, every day I’m hopeful that this terrible war will end. 😘

Had breast cancer last year and been through surgery and treatment. Can't shift worry that every ache or pain is it's return.

I feel this. Had surgery last year. Every ache is a worry.

My weight. It goes up and down. Mostly up.

@Blackcats7 me too, the ability to give the same level of fucks as before has completely gone.

My problems too.

There is still time for them at 2, so please cut them and yourself some slack. If you feel pressured, they will feel it too and that will only make it worse. Stated as one with a kid who didn't speak properly till they were 4.5 and now cannot shut up for 5 minutes.

My foot. Can't shift heel pain. Spend quite alot at the Podiatrist so far and still not right.
Wondering if it will ever shift.

Plantar Fasciitis? It feels like it will never go, but honestly it will. Different things work for different people as you'll see from all the MN PF threads, but almost everyone finds something that works for them in the end (for me it's rigorous attachment to appropriate shoes)

I truly hope everything is well for you, and if it isn't you hold your head high and face it straight on! Take everything that is given!
For me I forget I have a terminal illness until it comes to new pain or scans, and then I make it a new normal, but it's shite and didn't ever think it would happen to me or that I would potentially leave my only child, my daughter before she makes it to adulthood, but I'm determined that she will be a strong clever independent woman and that makes me happy xx

I just read this and I think will stay with me for good.
I cannot admire more your spirit. Big hugs.

Well, if she’s anything like her mum she certainly will be brave and strong. X

Have you thought about hypnotherapy,my aunt was terrified of the dentist but was in so much pain with tooth decay,that she got hypnotised and was able to have treatment

Are you and your child getting support? Its such a worry when there are developmental concerns. I'm in Ireland so the system is different here but if I can help let me know. I got lots of support and info on what to do next from parents' groups. Xx

oh, shitloads of stuff! Some of it really a lot less critical than the other stuff. Some of the stuff I'm not thinking about and is on the back burner, I really need to prioritise. But that's always the way, isn't it? I'm going la-la-la and getting sidetracked by the fact that I want/need to lose a stone and a half in order to get back into size 14 clothes, when actually I ought to be ringing round some roofers to sort out our many and varied damp issues before they get any worse, and trying to sit my recalcitrant parents down for a grown up chat about their very complex financial/property situation.

-weight (fixable, just dull/hard to do it)
-no pension apart from state one (head in sand)
-13 yr old son with severe autism/LDs, getting violent, already too strong for either of us to control if he's being stubborn, despite existing on fresh air and the odd crisp
-older child getting depressed about GCSEs despite being really very bright and doing well at mocks, etc. Concerned about MH there.
-Parents and their intractable personal situation. Massive unexploded bomb there, ticking away.
-perimeno loss of what libido I ever had, testogel making bugger-all difference.
-roof/house in worrying state of disrepair
-having difficulty getting on with my side hustle and have an exhibition to make stuff for
-joint and back pain becoming increasing problem, GP was crap, NHS and private physio didn't help, pilates helps with stiffness but not pain, and I can't accept that at 50, this is my lot in life and walks are just not a thing for me any more.

But that aside - nobody I love has died yet. We have a (leaky) roof over our heads and enough money to heat it, buy food and go out, and on holiday. We have a car. We have a nice view. We have lovely cats and as far as I know, we're all broadly healthy. For all of that, I'm grateful. to those battling with much worse issues.

Hey love. That all sounds really tough. I know you'll be great in your new job - you sound like a coper! Sometimes we just don't have the choice, other than to cope, but dealing with everything you have on your plate, I bet you have lots of coping experience. Perhaps you'll meet new people you might like to consider as friends in your new job. The chronic pain is a nightmare, it can really change your whole outlook on life. 'Private' doesn't necessarily mean magic though, they might not be able to do any more than NHS. If it's debilitating, then be that squeaky wheel and try to get your GP to refer you on. Just because back pain is so common, doesn't mean you can't be helped to help it. I'm finding pilates really helpful (cliche!) and it's cheaper than a private physio! And mobilising, with painkillers, to avoid seizing up - you know all this, but it does help.

I also have a 13 yo autistic son and worry so much about the future. He'll never be able to live without a high level of assistance, and I sometimes don't even know if he's capable of living in supported living accommodation. Anywhere he went would have to be secure and eyes on him at all times, and that's basically at home, or somewhere akin to a prison. It's very hard for people who don't have this in their lives to understand what a shadow it throws over the future.

@Iom92 I am so so sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs x