To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

[Biggybigbiggles]

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

I think we can bear our pain better than pain in our children - I can’t take it away but you aren’t alone 💐

Dh chronic health issues tied with dparents late 80s and frail health.

Just got a couple of silly part time jobs and for first time in my life, I'm not getting anywhere with interviews for more. I'm massively bored and getting a bit panicky at being trapped and needing a change somewhere, somehow.

Thank you to everyone who has wished me well on this thread (I posted within the first 15-20 or so posts).

To the poster who advised I may be entitled to full pay while suspended, once I realised my registration had lapsed I basically found myself in a bit of a mental breakdown so I'm off sick. My company (ironically an Occ Health one) offer discretionary sick pay only. I doubt they will pay me though

Thinking of everyone who has posted, it just goes to show that you never do know what someone else is going through.

Life is fucking cruel and harsh. I hope everyone has support...whether from friends, family, online communities or pets!

I'm overweight even after losing 4 stones last year.

I have terrible nightmares.

I just worry generally. I find it hard to not worry.

This thread is really heartbreaking and I’m so sorry for everyone on it hurting from so many different reasons.

But I did want to address this: the idea that if you’ve read problems that seem “worse” than yours, you feel stupid, or somehow less than. Believe me, it’s just not true. Pain is pain, and hurt is hurt. We all hurt, and we all need support. There isn’t a grand scale where everything is judged and a loud, booming voice says, “Oi, you, your problem isn’t that big. Down to the bottom with you.” No! There is only the scale of your life, which I think is what this thread shows - whatever is the biggest problem to you right now is still the biggest problem, regardless of what someone else is going through.

And while it’s true that it’s a shame so many of us spend some of our prime years thinking we’re less capable, smart, attractive, or loved than we are, it’s also true that some problems will steal years away from us, and that’s not your fault. It’s not anybody’s fault. Pain, illness, grief, worry that eats you up from the inside, exhaustion from trying to do it on your own - it’s a lot to ask any human to take.

So when you see someone else’s comment and think, “Oh, I’m pathetic/ridiculous/stupid; that’s so much worse than my life,” no, you are not. Pain is relative. All lives are different. And I’m so sorry so many of you are hurting today. I hope that you do find some comfort and maybe even some solutions, if possible, as time moves on.

You deserve a break... sending virtual to you and all

I was very close to.my Dad took and he's been dead now for almost 30 years and occasionally I still cry when I miss him. I try to focus on the nice memories and can do this most of the time. I feel your pain. 💐

Being disabled at 55. Low mobility, low mood, two autoimmune conditions that have got so much worse since the menopause. I have to rely on DH to do everything around the home, he is my only blessing in this. Not being able to spend time with my DC and my DGC, as much as I would like because I’m too ill to go to them and my house isn’t big enough to have them all here.

i have to do a face to face assessment for DWP this week, so worried about it, I feel like they will try and catch me out, especially as mentally I get confused and lose or swap words.

Just got new glasses and am walking like a spaceman as they’re bloody bifocals!

My 12 yr old is the same.
Sleeps all the time and won't leave the house.
I have no life, no job..no friends, abusive neighbours, ill health myself and because of all the stress I even 'forgot'to go to my pip tribunal.
Everyone else's problems on here are so much worse though and I really feel for you all

I am self employed so it is variable income. I do prefer being my own boss though and luckily my overheads are low.

Best wishes to all. Think this should go into classics to preserve it.

Two of my closest friends have fallen out badly with each other. Trying to be supportive to both is very tricky.

My 2 yo isn’t talking, at all.
I worry they will be like my sibling, who is in a care home, non-verbal.
I see autism everywhere I look, even on here. I am terrified.
I hear about late talkers anecdotally all the time, especially with pretermers, but I wonder if I’m just deluding myself. No one professional seems to think late talkers exist so there’s no reassurance, just more fear.
My husband can’t cope.
I do not regret my child but I wish I had met a partner who was stronger.
I try to practice gratitude every day, for the things I do have, but it’s hard.

My DF is dealing with this although at an older age.

It is so frustrating that there don’t seem to be any breakthroughs in treatment.

Other than that, my problems are behind me hopefully . I gave myself a good talking to a while ago that my significantly thinning hair was no big deal compared to infertility and miscarriages and I should be grateful that I have my 2 DSs after all my difficulties conceiving/staying pregnant. I hope it works out for all of you with infertility.

I’ve PM’d you.

my weight, have put on stones since developing chronic illnesses, medications, lack of mobility, menopause. I don’t recognise myself anymore…. also
my health, I’d love to feel well and normal like I used to be, even if just for one day.
Not having to worrying about money constantly would be bloody lovely too!

Waiting for the results of my cortisol tests. I have two nodules on my adrenal glands and if they are affecting my cortisol levels, (Cushing disease) they have to come out….. On a lighter note I am waiting for them to bring the latest iPad out. Mine is on its last legs after 5 years, and I don’t want to replace it for them to bring out a brand new one the next day!

A dear friend of mine was in similar circumstances after cancer treatment. She eventually had a stoma, and although it was difficult to come to terms with and the management of it took a little time to get used to, she has never looked back and says life is so much easier. I do hope the same will be true for you. Sending you a hug.

I would cure my youngest daughter's lifelong condition that requires 24 hour management and has caused us so much stress trying to care for her that I have developed an autoimmune condition and my other children are struggling mentally. If it was taken away the relief would make all of us want to run through the streets singing. I am sure the weight lifting from my shoulders would make me float away.

OMG are you me?! I completely understand this.

Are you also in a place where you look at your set up and think this is perfect...on paper this is the most perfect environment for the best routine ever to achieve soooooo much stuff...

...and yet.....😂

I've lost count of the amount daily planners I have bought, made myself etc...