To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

[Biggybigbiggles]

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Going through an expensive divorce, which my stbxh has lied his way through and rewritten history. Having to fight for what I deserve. Been told it'll cost more to prove his income, which he has been hiding.

Stbxh also took our dogs and hasn't let me see them for over 2 years.

My dd20 has anorexia and bulimia, alongside ocd. Autistic and adhd traits which are being investigated. Life is very tough for her and it kills me that I can't help her.

I have no friends at all.

I have very few relatives, and the ones I do have aren't interested.

My job and career are at risk due to me forgetting to update my registration. I'm now under investigation without pay. I can't get look for another job because I can't get my registration back until the investigation is complete. It hasn't even started yet and I have no date for it or even a timeframe.

I'm at risk of losing my home due to no income.

I'm in a relationship which I've realised has no future.

My Mh is in my boots and all of the above is making me feel like a failure. Have struggled with my Mh for many years. I've been intrigued by the recent news story of the lady in the Netherlands...

I've been struggling with pain since a car accident (minor bump) which triggered off an old injury. On 5 different types of painkillers each day, including morphine tablets, but I'm still restricted daily.

I know it's not a race to the bottom, sorry for the long post.

STBXH.

Just that, really.

I’m ill with my second bout of breast cancer, while also working full time and looking after my DH who also has cancer. My teen DD with severe mental health problems.

Money, especially long term. I'm single and self-employed doing work I love but with the cost of living going up so quickly feel like I'm never going to catch up and earn enough to feel comfortable as a single income household.

Currently also feeling horribly ill and don't know why, so that's worrying me.

Son who is introverted and I'm worried has anxiety but doesn't talk much so I struggle to know what to do.

I'm sorry things are so difficult for you, that sounds really hard x

Recurrent health issue that is quite debilitating when it kicks off. Live in fear that it will kick off at any moment which prevents me from relaxing and enjoying life.
struggling with motivation and exercise (lack of) and peri menopausal weight gain.

In no particular order.

My fat belly! I don't care that much about being overweight but would love it to be distributed better so that clothes still look nice! I have friends who are bigger than me but still look good because the weight is on their arse and boobs while mine is all belly 😭

Would love for my autistic DS to magically gain the social skills he needs to get a job and thrive in life while still being himself.

A few health conditions that don't impact that much on my life right now but would be nice not to have, especially as I get older.

Fast forward a year to the point when I will have enough for a deposit and can put renting and crappy landlord nonsense firmly behind me!

Trivial but would love for my shite frizzy, wavy (but not in a good way) mind of it's own hair to become straight and glossy!

Win the lottery obviously!

Work needed on my house.
I need a new bay window as it is leaking in badly when it rains.

BUT, I have a relative with significant MH issues, not going to work so I’m having to lend (a lot) of money to cover their rent and bills because if I don’t, it will be disastrous for them.
I can’t keep doing it and they owe me a significant sum now with fading chance of paying me back.
Its my window replacement savings so until it’s paid back, I’m living with water leaking into my room causing plaster and wall issues…
Sleepless nights worrying about it all.

My weight. I'm very overweight (lost loads them gained nearly all of it back) my knees hurt, nothing fits and I look awful in the clothes that I do fit into.

It took me nearly 4 months of hard work just to lose half a stone and due to home upheaval and a shit time at work I've gained it all back plus some more.

I have a friend's wedding coming up in less than 2 months and I don't want to go because I hate every one seeing me thinking "what a shame she gained it all back"

Money - had unexpected expenses at most expensive months for us.

Then my weight -plus how bad I look skin hair clothes etc.

Then kids exams - getting youngest to revise - especially and keep them on track and motivated - school fucking useless and does opposite - also her increased anxiety again school is making this worse as is her friendship group.

Like others, worried about money in the long term. Not right now, as I earn a very decent salary. But I am 51, divorced, becoming invisible in the workplace (and invisible in general).

I’m so sorry. You can’t “just move on”, that’s not the way it works. Be good to yourself.

Health issues that nearly killed me, parent who is refusing to look after themselves and problems in the house that can't wait to be fixed and need chunks of money spending on them.

My dear pet Hen. Rescued years ago, has brought so much joy into my life, and now she is slowly drifting away. My heart is broken. Every day is a blessing! But everyday I feel on edge...

Still getting over my breakdown last year where I had zero support from family and having to pretend I’m ok now when really I’m not ( and realising most ppl are not there for you when you need them)

That I can't prove that h has been taking money and keeping me short.

I'm so sorry @the90s 🌷

DH has just been made redundant. He spent five months out of work last year, and it nearly killed us, so I'm gutted it has happened again.

Same here. Sure I'm mid-40s, am single and have a young kid, and am probably perimenopausal, but most of my problems relate to the lack of money and the constant juggle to make things work.

I’m fat and unlike you OP I always have been. It’s a massive complex issue that affects every area of my life. So that’s what I’d change in an instant if poss!

My weight.

That's a problem. How is he not worried about the state of afairs?

Money - I need more of it to facilitate the things on my ‘wish to do list’.

Bereavement of partner in awful circumstances. It been nesrli 2.5 years and I just can't get onto.an even keel. Want him.back and the old me