Holiday dilemma

[Tasmin88]

Sorry for the rant but we've had a massive row and I just want to understand what others would do?

Basically, we're on holiday with my DP, his DD (10 YO) and me and my DD (6 YO). His DD won a talent contest and received a £10 voucher to be used on the campsite, fair enough! As a family, we won a quiz and another £10 voucher. It's our last day tomorrow so we were discussing how to let the kids make the most of the vouchers but my DP is suggesting his DD gets £15 of the voucher and my DD gets £5 as that's 'fair'... I explained that from my POV, if it was the other way around and my DD had won the talent content, I would still be saying £10 each in the interest of fairness and teaching them about sharing but he seems to think I'm unreasonable? Thoughts?

Same could be said for the OP? She's created argument by insisting her dc gets the family money to herself.

But they were both arguing over it. As many on this thread believe he had a valid point

or should he just roll over and let his daughter be taken advantage of to keep a woman happy?

For a fiver??not worth discussing share and share alike

But when your 10 your own £10 is a big thing!

I couldn't live with this level of petty over such a small amount. I'd have thought the 10 yr old would have just been happy to have her stepsister just have the other voucher seeing she already had one?

But sometimes you lose...

You can't always win a prize

And she'll need to understand this before adulthood

Disagree

If you've earned something it's yours

If a group has earned something it's shared

You’re asking the wrong question. Sounds like you’ve got bigger problems than who gets what share of a few quid

You're right, of course. And it's important that the solo achievement is recognised.

I just can't imagine being in the situation where there is actual strife - on holiday - over a share of £10, which is bonus money, and not the last £10 for say, groceries.

@Tasmin88 hasnt bothered posting since her "one and done" 4 days ago - I am assuming it has been sorted peeps!

Absolutely agree, otherwise you're teaching them they can't have anything of their own achievement, or does it only go one way?...

@TheCheekyKoala

thats YOUR. Option (which you're entitled to, obviously) but it's not my opinion nor the OP's partner he's not wrong, he's not evil, they just have different opinions.

if you choose to treat the eldest unfairly it causes ill feeling between the children.

@ChinnyChin2

since when has that stopped a thread in its tracks??😂😂😂

Let talent winner keep her own winnings. Use quiz winnings to buy 4 ice creams.

Just top up your daughter's holiday spending money to match your DP's daughter's amount. Surely a tenner won't kill you if you're already on holiday.

@pavedwithgoodintentions Oh no, worst solution possible. Terribly unfair.

Reminds me of a family I knew who had a DD and a DS. Both children were given pocket money each week but each child had a different approach to Money. The DD spent all hers every week and had nothing much to show for it. The DS always saved some of his for holidays etc.

Got to the eve of their holiday and the DS had about £10 saved up for spends, the DD virtually nothing. Grandma (who always favoured the DD) came round intending to give them both a few quid for their holiday but when she realised the disparity in spending money she gave the DD more to make sure she had the same as her brother. E.g. gave the DS £5 and the DD £15.

I know the kid's mum was furious about it but it was her MIL who did it and she didn't feel like she had any comeback.

I think if the OP gave her DD the equivalent of the other little girls winnings that would be really diminishing the fact she got them by her own efforts.

This nails it. Obviously too late now, probably back at school already

An even split, so £10 each. It's not like the money is coming from your own pockets. To do it any other way is ridiculously nit-picky. We're talking two kids on holiday, not a lottery win!

I don't think the scenario is the same.

I disagree. It seems like a very close parallel to me.

One child has more money than the other, either through their own efforts or their own prudence.

A misguided adult wants to ensure they have equal amounts regardless, so they propose to do that by giving money to one child but not the other.

No, it's the holiday where he stuck up for his DD. She doesn't get to say "never again" to that.

She can say never again to anything she wants. She can take her own child on holiday instead. I wouldn’t be going on a holiday if the relationship was so crap that we had a argument over a few quid.