Head Table Havoc

[TaylorZ]

My DSS is getting married and the conversations have come up about who sits at the head table. There is no issue for my stepson's fiancé as her parents are still together so will naturally be at the head table together. She believes my DH and his ex wife should be on the head table too. Being his biological parents, I would be inclined to agree, except:

• The split between DH and his ex was not amicable, it is still hostile all these years later, so would be very awkward for both.
• DH feels it is a bit disrespectful to me considering we have had majority custody of DSS since he was a little boy.
• DSS mum has also been remarried for a long time, which leaves both her husband and I sitting without our spouses for the majority of the day.

My stepson doesn't seem phased about table arrangements but his wife to be is in Bridezilla mode over minute details.

Is it unreasonable to suggest both DH and I, plus his DM and her husband all sit at the head table? Or should just one couple do it? Personally I don't care if his mum and her DH take the spot if needs be but DSS actually prefers us over his mum and my DH family would see it as an insult all things considered.

You are wrong. My DSS refers to his mother as 'a fucking mental case' on the regular. I have no need to be jealous in any way shape or form, as previously stated I don't give a shit where I sit

Well this makes no sense at all then. Are you saying he's in an abusive relationship where his fiance is so dominant that he isn't allowed a say?

Point out the issue to DSS and let him decide what to do - it’s his wedding. Parents on the top table but suitably separated seems like the best solution imo but it’s really not your problem

Well apparently she likes the dil, so it doesn't sound like she's the problem. It's more likely her dss doesn't feel able to say positive things about his mum to her (and maybe his dad). Quite possibly due to being bought up with so much bad blood between them. Which if true is 100% down to how the adults have treated each other while he was growing up.

I don’t think OP really like/s the only bride - who she calls bridezilla.

there is the usual sexism on this thread. Groom is weak. Grooms father is week, grooms mother is a bitch and bride is a bitch (or bridezilla as OP has called her).

the men are weak and can’t stand up for what they want - OP has painted herself as the only reason Albee person in this shit show of awful people! The women are all wrong (except for OP) and the men are useless idiots who need a strong women to express their feelings for them!

it will end badly.

You should apply to Mills and Boon.