Still out 14 hours later on a BH

[OneWildLemonSnake]

AIBU.....
Me and my partner have been together 5 years. It's quite toxic and he has issues when he drinks with taking other substances, cheating and just being a general git!
It was my daughters birthday this weekend (not his child) and he had the hump we were going out today for the day.
He got up and left the house at 9am, hardly spoke to me.
We left at about 12 and came home around 630pm, he still wasn't home.
She has now gone to her dads, and he still isn't home, he hasn't messaged me at all today - its now 1030pm so almost 14 hours later.
He also has to get up for work at 4am, I know he is out drinking and probably taking drugs.
AIBU to think he's out of order for not even messaging me to say if he is coming home or not and safe?
I also have to get up for work, but he has taken the car I :-(

Good for you op. Sorry so many posters haven't bothered to read your updates!

Move onwards and upwards without this loser holding you back.

You do what you want with your life but why on earth would you expose your daughter to this toxicity? Words fail me.

Please read the full thread or at least the OP's numerous posts on the subject of her daughter!!

You're still modelling extremely bad choices to her

Op reading the posts you must be the most patient person ever! Take care and hope things go ok for you x

@CandyLeBonBon the DD maybe an adult but she was a very young adult when her mum got together with the arsehole, so even if she didn’t live at home she would have been exposed to him at times.

He doesn't have any family that he speaks to
Sounds to me as if he thought he needn't bother being polite or civil to them because he had you to leach off of OP!
Well done for putting him straight 😁👍⭐

Why on earth do you feel it’s necessary to stick the boot in to a woman who obviously has suffered mentally due to this prick.

Interested where your own "this is definitely unreasonable and I'll LTB" bar actually is.

If he's in prison for double murder or something?

@OneWildLemonSnake best of luck in your new life without him! And finding a car quickly.

Can't remember if you said (I'm a bit dozy today) but are you changing the locks? He sounds like an utter horror

OP, this thread went loopy and I really admire how you kept your cool with the crazy posts. Well done for acting so swifty re that waste of sppace too!

If you actually read the thread you'd find out

Haven't yet but will do!

Are you still going on...... boring now!!

Well obviously, she’s put up with this idiot for five years. Glad to hear she’s given him her marching orders.

You must surely hold the record for the number of responses from people who haven't read the thread and miss the point! Glad to hear you're getting shot of this waste of space. Onward and upward!

Be warned he will probably be 'so sorry' 'will never do it again' 'give me one more chance'. NOPE.

I’m glad you have had the courage to kick him out Op. I’m sure you will soon realise what a relief it is to be rid of him . It doesn’t sound like he brings you any joy . After all what does a 40+ drink and drug addict have to offer ?
For information , many drugs stay in the system for many days so if he gets in his car today / tomorrow he’ll probably still be over the limit !
Good luck & enjoy your new life without him

OP you can’t win with some people but well done on moving forward today 💐

I’ve read the full thread !

You’ll be so much better without him xx

Well, I'm glad he has had his marching orders. I do hope he has now left the house without causing further upset.

Arrange for a locksmith to come over as soon as possible to change the locks. Until then put some furniture behind the door so that he won't be able to open it easily.

It's good that your DD is in her twenties and moved out now, so doesn't have to subject herself to this fuckwit too much. I'm sure though that she will be relieved that you have now kicked him out. She'll almost certainly still have noticed some of his twattishness.

Thank you

I’m so glad you’ve got rid, OP. Raise your standards and don’t waste another five years of your life with a loser like him. You should be with someone who makes your life better, makes you feel happy when you think of them and puts you first. He’s out there xx

You were being unreasonable for staying with this shit who treated you this way. Good to see your updates.

She's not staying with him, and her daughter is 25 and has a house of her own. If you're too lazy to read the full thread, you might at least read the OP's posts properly.