Baby rarely cries and I was told he’s autistic

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My baby rarely cries and is four months old. His auntie has just said that’s a sign of autism. She’s studying psychology at uni.

If baby does cry I can usually get it sorted (food, wind, cuddle).

Aibu in thinking that she’s unreasonable making such sweeping statements.

i have googled it and it appears to be true :/

He is four months! Far to early to diagnose.
Keep talking and singing and cuddling him to build all the neurones in his brain!

You’ve just contradicted yourself and said your baby does cry (if it’s hungry etc). I think you are worrying over some flippant uncalled for remark from your auntie. Just ignore her. Something ridiculous like 3/5 of children diagnosed with autism under the age of 5 no longer have the diagnosis past the age of 7.

@Mayflower282 officially diagnosed?

Give it 6 months and you'll forget you ever said it. Some newborns are actually very sleepy and calm. It doesn't last xD

He’s four months now…. So not a newborn

Studying psychology at uni does not make her an expert in autism and able to diagnose it in tiny babies. She should know from her studies not to make such ridiculous statements on no evidence.

Your baby is content and you are attentive and responsive. Your relative should know better than to say such stupid things to you.

Please try not to worry unduly- this is a flippant remark made by someone who is not in a position to be handing out a diagnosis of autism on anyone

Stop listening to random people about medical diagnosis. That goes for your idiot aunt, "google" and even people on here.

My second child was very settled and rarely cried. Doesn’t have autism. Was just an easy baby.

My dm had 4 babies. First one average baby second cried nearly all the time. third rarely cried easily settled content, 4th average baby.
I'm the third , dm.said i was an easy baby and I'm.def not on autistic spectrum. I'm not saying it is not a sign of autism but your sons nature will also play into his behaviour.

Also people studying psychology etc often become over fixated on details theyre learning. She s not qualified at anything and definitely not qualified to judge a 4mth old baby ( noone is, it can't be done)

Ignore her and enjoy your baby x

I was just giving a sweeping statement.
If he's still silent in another 6 month then maybe it's worth investigation. As is, provided its HIS normal, I wouldn't worry.

Yes I would be worried if baby never cried, but he rarely cries.

nothing really bothers him. I’ve never seen him cry without a good reason.

like today he’s got a cold and has been crying for food (he’s been drinking a lot less). But apart from that I know I can take him out or be at home fine. He will be a bit of a Velcro baby in the evenings so I have to hold him but other mums have told them they miss exercise class or classes etc due to crying baby.

Does your baby make eye contact and/or smile? I think those are considered more reliable indicators.

Even if he doesn't yet, that doesn't necessarily mean anything.

My ds barely ever cries. Just an occasional murmur to let you know he's hungry or uncomfortable. Another mum told me "boys are just too lazy to cry" which is obviously nonsense but did make me chuckle. He makes eye contact, smiles, laughs and has even started to babble (3.5mo) so I'm not at all worried.

He doesn’t seem bothered about dirty nappies either…. :/

yes baby does smile and passed Hv checks. But I know the baby can also regress.

i did have PPA which seemed to have got better…. And autism played a part. His cousin on dads aide is autistic. My brothers kid is autistic - wife’s family and she has autism. I don’t talk to the father so I don’t know about the history of autism.

sigh :( I didn’t need my PPA coming back

My youngest (he’s 16 now) just never cried. We were very attentive parents (his big brother died and then he had a very rocky start to life so we basically had him in our arms 24/7!) so he just didn’t need to cry plus it turned out he was just naturally a calm baby/boy/teenager.

He also never smiled as a baby and didn’t do those crazy baby giggles where they just fall into hysterics when they find something funny. A few people commented on this and autism was mentioned more than a few times.

He was just chill.

What a strange comment to make about a 4 month old baby. Does she have any children of her own? Some babies cry a lot, some don’t and a 4 month old will only cry to have their needs met or if they’re in pain etc, sounds like you just have a happy baby.

My mum said I was a quiet baby. I sometimes think i must be autistic as I get way to emotional but the therapist said I was emotionally neglected. So…

He has a dummy which shuts him up…. :/

no she doesn’t have children

I’ve got a lot better at this….. but I don’t understand how much I’m supposed to do it? It’s also hard a I’m alone.

can I just talk to him or do I need to look at him all the time? For example if I’m doing the washing up I can talk bout what I’m doing and talk to him, but obviously I do need to look at the dishes/clean the kitchen so I’m not always facing him or looking at him

My daughter only cried if hungry at that age. Either asleep or alert but not crying. She’s 16 and not autistic. Don’t listen to unqualified people IRL or online making sweeping pronouncements on topics they know nothing about. Just carry on being a relaxed mum and enjoy your baby. He’ll cry enough to reassure you going forward!

My baby screamed non stop until he was two. He is autistic.

He’s not silent, he just rarely cries. He will only cry for food…. And I could probably take him out all day and he won’t eat and just sleep (I think he hates the brightness outside). Cried so hard after his last vaccine but quickly shut up.

My baby also sleeps a lot.

Sounds like you have a contented baby! Just enjoy it. I hate that this worry has been put upon you. It's not something you can control anyway and most likely, it's not even anything you need to worry about. Both of mine were contented babies btw.

@Bigbenbube DS was not a crier. He would look at me - just look. As soon as he could function like a human he was putting things together in colour order.
Yes he was on the spectrum but at 20 he is now a fabulous, quirky and brilliant human who is studying his passions at university.

Your DC will be what he is and be amazing. Enjoy him, quirks and all

Is it an indicator of ND?

would you mind if I asked questions?