To say no more bringing the dog to our house

[Toopytoop]

My step kids mum has recently gotten a dog. She works nights and the children have started "wanting to bring their dog" when they come to ours. I suspect what is actually going on is she is starting to feel guilty leaving a dog by itself all night and so is encouraging the kids to desperately "want" to bring their dog with them here.

Aibu to say no more bringing the dog with them?

They stay 3 nights a week and DH goes to work early so I'm the one who ends up in the house all day with it or until their mum sometimes decides to pick it up on her way home in the mornings.

How is a dog that was not the family pet when the parents were together become "part of the deal"?

You didn't choose to get a dog & now you are left looking after someone else's dog all day.
You need to let it out, or walk it X times a day.
So No you are not unreasonable at all.
If it was an occasional pet-sit if she goes away then that would be up for debate.

Children are one thing dogs a choice just say no. Anyway your DH should deal with this not you.

YADNBU

She's a CF

Say no

This thread is hilarious, @ImNotReallySpartacus saying dogs have genders, and people asking about the dogs pronouns 🤣

Obviously decline to be used a dog daycare.

Er, because she is more concerned about her own comfort and convenience than about someone else's pet. That's allowed, even in a supposedly dog-worshipping country.

It's not her dog!

@Lillette

its not part of the deal.
op doesn’t have to do it if she doesn’t want to 😀

YANBU. Put your foot down and say no to the dog. If the SDC had a sibling that wasn't your DPs, you wouldn't be expected to house them while your SDC are with you, so why should the dog be any different. The dog is the mother's problem and she can find herself a dog sitter. End of.

So if the kids get a sibling that isn't their Dad's, that sibling should be allowed to stay at the OP's too, under the guise of being "part of the family/deal"? 🙈

Absolutely no chance would I have a dog in my house

They shouldn't have got the dog if they hadn't considered day care while they are out working. Its totally out of order for them to make the kids feel guilty. The dog is not their responsibility. Don't feel guilty. What if something happened to the dog or it caused an accident if it escaped and ran onto the Road or got sick while in your care. Those should never be your concerns and it is out of order to put the responsibility on you

You can say that you don't want the dog in your home but you and your dh will have to be united in saying it. If he wants the dog and you don't it's making you the bad guy. He should support you in saying no.

I think they HAD considered day care, ie they were confident they had more than enough leverage that they could railroad the OP into doing it!

This thread is fantastically nuts.

Of course YANBU - no sane person would truly think otherwise.

Reckon anyone on here who is claiming otherwise is either on a wind up or enjoys debating for the sake of it.

Not your responsibility. Too many people getting dogs without thinking it through first, so not your problem.

ZOMBIE THREAD

Your BIL is a self entitled *ssh#le. Good for you for standing up for what is right. Personally, after the way they have behaved, I would never host them again until they apologised.